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06. The Great Reawakening: Celtic Wisdom, the Earth, and Remembering Our Divine Nature w/John Philip Newell and Cami Twilling

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Jennifer Whitkaer (00:02.709)
Welcome everyone and thank you for joining us today on this very special episode. Just so you know that today, the day that we're recording this episode is Earth Day, which makes this conversation even more potent and sacred. And today we're not just going to be having a typical podcast conversation.

we're actually gonna take you on a journey, a journey that many of us have already begun in our own way, from disconnection to reconnection, from forgetting to remembering, from living on the surface of things to returning to the sacred heartbeat beneath it all.

So many of you women who are listening are in the process of awakening and you're realizing that something essential has been missing, not just in the world, but also within yourself. And you're feeling this ache of separation from your bodies, from your soul's voice, from your purpose and from the earth. And you're being called back.

You're being called back to your alignment with nature, to your feminine wisdom, and to a deeper relationship with the divine. And that's why I couldn't imagine a more perfect guide for this conversation than introducing you to John Philip Newell, who is an internationally renowned Celtic teacher and author of numerous books, including Sacred Earth, Sacred Soul.

A book that I have to say feels like a holy invitation to come home to yourself. And we have Cami Twilling, the Director of Earth and Soul, which is a Celtic initiative of study, spiritual practice, and compassionate action inspired by the teachings of John Philip Knoll.

Jennifer Whitkaer (02:04.597)
John Philip Newell, I know that you have written many, many books, but I have to say that we're going to be speaking very specifically to Sacred Earth, Sacred Soul. And I am an avid reader. I read so many books and yours is one of the few books I have read. I think it's four times now. So I just want to add that to our listeners. This is definitely a book worth reading.

John Philip Newell (02:22.126)
I'm

Jennifer Whitkaer (02:29.301)
And today in our conversation, we're going to be following the path that sacred earth, sacred soul so beautifully illuminates. We're going to begin by exploring why we're feeling disconnected. Then we're going to move into the journey of remembering and sacred reconnection. We're going to listen for the divine heartbeat that pulses through nature.

We're gonna reflect on the sacred thresholds that we're being called across. And we're gonna end with how to embody this awakening in our own lives and in our leadership. And we'll be guided by Cami through a very special spiritual practice at the end.

So John Philip and Cami, I'm so honored to have you here. Let's begin at the beginning. I want to start with the question that I ask each of my guests to each of you. What practice keeps you rooted as you rise?

John Philip Newell (03:24.974)
Thank you Jennifer and thanks for the welcome. It's very good to be with you.

I love this question in part because it suggests rising to the new day as well, as well as rising from the realm of sleep and the sort of remembering that can happen in the dreams of the night. But my practice, and it's a practice that as soon as I wake, I think, yeah.

I get to meditate for half an hour. And that's a really important moment in my day. And I think early on in my meditative practice, I might have occasionally thought, I'm too busy. I'm so important and I've got so many important things to do. I'll maybe have to skip my meditation. And I learned very early on that...

that is extremely counterproductive. And that what silent meditation does for me is root me again in my center. It allows me to open to my essence and to be reminded that that's where my true energy comes from. That's where any creativity that will affect my

my work in terms of my teaching and writing come from. So my practice, and now that I'm in Finthorn, and we have a sort of pine forest immediately behind the house and a balcony leading, a little balcony leading out from the bedroom, my practice is to either sit out on the balcony, wrapped warmly in a blanket,

John Philip Newell (05:28.398)
or to sit slightly inside the bedroom but with the doors open, almost like an archway onto an actual world. And my practice is to use a very simple mantra that the rhythm of which is helped by my breathing in and my breathing out. And the mantra that I'm very focused on at the moment is

open to the light of your soul, open to the light of your soul. And that's been very important. you know, as you've already indicated, and as the title of my book that we're going to be touching on indicates that sacred soul, sacred earth, or sacred earth, sacred soul. So I have been finding it more recently helpful to move simply

not just from open to the light of your soul, to at some stage in my meditation moving the mantra into open to the light in all life, and to be reminded that my soul and the soul of earth come from the same wellspring, and that moving from one...

Mantra, repetition and the other. I've been finding it very helpful. And then that meditation time ends with a sort of moving into prayer of compassion for places of suffering in the world. And I find that important as well, because being renewed in one's soul, being renewed in the soul of earth is never, I think,

simply for me, it's to strengthen me in the way of love and strengthen me in the way of compassionate interrelationship with all things. So that's a very simple practice and I'm absolutely committed to it. I know that if I neglect it, my day goes downhill pretty quickly.

Jennifer Whitkaer (07:49.989)
I can so relate. I definitely can feel it when I do not do my morning practice as well. And I so appreciate the detail that you gave to us because so many women who are listening are experimenting with different practices. And so I think it's important to hear what other people are doing to find the one that works well for you. So thank you for sharing that. Kimmy, what is your practice that keeps you rooted as you rise?

Cami Twilling (08:15.886)
Well, every morning I do have a meditation practice and just that time of stillness, but I'm going to share something different that I've just started doing in the past few months that's been very grounding. And, you know, it's so easy when we wake up in the morning to pick up our phone and look at, know, who knows what, if there's messages or whatever, but I've decided in the morning when I got up, I go right out my back door.

and have this beautiful ash tree in the backyard. And so I go barefoot if it's warm enough or in wool socks if it's not. And I stand out in the middle of my backyard and I hug this beautiful ash tree and look to the east and allow the sunlight to come into my eyes and just stand there with utter gratitude, feeling myself being grounded into earth.

And then looking up this enormous tall tree and just saying thank you and seeing how, I mean, I love, you know, rooted women rising. I mean, it's so beautiful. just think of this tree, you know, it's so deeply rooted and strong and held by earth, but then it's also rising and reaching out and, you know, providing life for birds and squirrels and

and a shade in the summertime. And it's just been a beautiful way to start my day of, you no matter if it's snowing outside, if it's sunny outside, if it's, no matter what the weather, just taking time to be outside, to feel myself, you know, grounding down into earth, but then also, you know, rising up, looking up into this tree and looking into the sun.

and just feeling such gratitude for this earth that holds us and gives us all that we need. And in standing there, sometimes it's very quiet and sometimes, you know, different things arise within me that I want to pay attention to for the day. But I think it is it's one of those things, too, that I notice a big difference on the days I don't go outside.

Cami Twilling (10:44.844)
You know, if I skip a day, it's so interesting how that does shift the whole day. You know, and sometimes I think at noon, if I haven't gone out, I'm like, I need to go out and do this. You know, it's never too late. I don't think we've ever missed a moment of meditation or grounding into Earth. It's important to if we notice I haven't done that.

then we can go out and do that in the moment of awareness and bring ourselves back into that place of being centered. But that's a practice I've really enjoyed over these past few months. And I'm looking forward to the summertime, know, the light coming so much earlier and just beginning the day that way, just with Earth.

Jennifer Whitkaer (11:36.871)
It's so beautiful. And when you said hugging the tree, I just felt myself there in the morning. I like to go out and have my breakfast and I put my feet in the grass and ground as well. And I'm amazed every morning I do. I look forward to this moment because like you said, there are some mornings where the birds are really active. There are sometimes it's really quiet. There are mornings that it's raining. There's sometimes it's windy. Everything is changing. And it just allows me to be reminded that if I am in a season that

feels stuck or dark that it too shall pass because nature is that reminder that everything is changing. So thank you for both sharing that. I love both of your practices. It really resonates with me. So I want to share a quote that is in your book.

Cami Twilling (12:13.666)
Mm-hmm. Yeah.

Jennifer Whitkaer (12:27.143)
We are in the midst of a great reawakening to the sacredness of the earth and the human soul." And I think that's such a beautiful quote.

timely for obviously Earth Day and for this conversation. And either of you feel free to answer this question, but I'm curious to know because you both have such a devotion to your mission and this purpose, this devotional path to the divine and to nature. And what was your inspiration to follow this devotional path?

John Philip Newell (13:06.126)
I was reared in the Western world, of course, trained theologically in Edinburgh, which had a real sort of superiority attitude about itself, being a sort of strong, heady place of theology. so, you my theological education taught me nothing.

about meditative practice. It taught me nothing about inner listening. And when I was still a relatively young man, I was given the opportunity by a gentleman named Harry Underhill, who was the nephew of the great English mystic, Evelyn Underhill.

I was given the opportunity to go to India and to spend a month with Bede Griffiths, was a great Benedictine monk who spent most of his life in India, although he was from England originally. And his most seminal work was called The Marriage of East and West. And particularly speaking to the need for the Western world and Western Christianity to

ground itself again in the wisdom of Eastern spiritual practices and meditation. And that was a real awakening moment for me in India to learn some very simple but ancient meditative practices and to realize that my own Western Christian inheritance

had neglected this dimension of my being and had neglected the practice of inner listening and stillness and silence. So that was a turning point in my life. And I was already aware of and being attracted to Celtic wisdom around sacredness of Earth.

John Philip Newell (15:32.846)
And so gradually what began to happen for me was this discovery of Eastern wisdom about meditative practice, and then sort of bringing that not only into my own inner life, but allowing some of those practices to allow me to listen to the inner life of Earth and the inner life of the natural world.

So that has led to this focus on sacredness of earth, sacredness of soul. But the turning point for me was definitely some time with Bede Griffiths in the East.

Jennifer Whitkaer (16:19.933)
And just for the listeners as well, because I know we're going to be referencing a lot around traditional Christianity, Celtic Christianity and Celtic wisdom. Can you briefly just share the differentiation or how you define each so people understand when we're sharing those terms, what that means for you?

John Philip Newell (16:40.642)
Yes, so much of our Western Christian tradition as we know it was given sort of definition and shape in the fourth century when Christianity got into bed with empire. Christianity moved almost overnight in the fourth century from being a persecuted minority, powerless.

to becoming a religion of privilege and prestige and power. And that didn't come just at the generosity of empire. Empire expected something in return. And the exchange in a sense was empire fashioning a religion that would bless what empire wanted to do.

bless its wars, would bless its domination of earth. And I I happen to be speaking about the Roman Empire in the fourth century. But I'm not just speaking about the Roman Empire, I'm speaking about the British Empire, I'm speaking about the American Empire, speaking about any nation that sets itself up in a place of special privilege or domination of the rest of the world, and pretends that

it can be welled by just simply looking after itself or by exploiting other nations or by neglecting the well-being of other nations. So Christianity has again and again since the fourth century have been wheeled in as sort of religious sanctioning of that way of seeing and really creating a very

Cami Twilling (18:15.662)
Thank

John Philip Newell (18:36.142)
sort of domesticated divine in the sense that the divine is there to especially look after our nation, especially look after our species and especially look after our, you know, the people of our religion. So very sort of diminished sense of the divine rather than seeing the divine in unbounded terms and in terms of seeing the divine.

in terms of the wellbeing of all. So I think that that's what I refer to when I use the term Western Christianity that is grounded in those fourth century formulations of belief and in that very complicated relationship with empire or with the nation state. So Celtic Christianity,

has an ancient lineage and in sacred earth, sacred soul, I trace that lineage right back to the second century. And whereas the Mediterranean Christian tradition becomes imperial Christianity in the fourth century and following, the Celtic tradition resists that serving of empire.

and to begin with is way out on the sort of Celtic fringe of vampires. So it doesn't, to begin with, know the sort of heavy hand of vampire. But nearly all of the great Celtic prophetic figures that I draw from in Sacred Earth, Sacred Soul end up either being excommunicated,

by the church, silenced by the church, deposed from ministry. So this has been a sort of resistance type of spirituality. And whereas imperial Christianity has tended to be a sort of city-based religion, what the Celtic tradition is, is very much an earth-based and nature-based tradition.

John Philip Newell (20:56.366)
And with that is, I think, the inseparable celebration of the feminine as well as the celebration of Earth. And those themes of sort of sacredness of the soul rather than the doctrine of original sin, which was articulated again in the fourth century when Christianity becomes imperial religion and is a convenient doctrine in a sense to empire.

because it assumes that what is deepest in every human being is ignorance rather than wisdom, and sees what is deepest as opposed to the divine rather than being of the divine. So the Celtic tradition increasingly became an inconvenience to that alliance between religion and power. so that's what I'm...

sort of pointing to the these are sort of religious spiritual streams with deep roots. But I think that the fourth century was a real pivotal point in terms of shaping Western Christianity as most of us know it today. And understanding the Celtic tradition as quite diametrically opposed to a lot of the creedal doctrinal formulations of

of Western Christianity.

Jennifer Whitkaer (22:28.369)
Yes, from a personal standpoint, I so relate to

The Celtic wisdom, I was raised in the Christian tradition. I actually have family members dating back to the 1500s that were priests and spiritual guides in London and all over Western Europe.

You know, I went through this period of deconstruction and reconstruction and the reconstruction was really, I would say, more of a remembering. It was a returning to a truth that lived within me. And I think the truth that the way to articulate that so well is by sharing one of your quotes. says,

What is deepest in us is of God. Every child, every woman, every man, and every life form is in essence divine. And that's what you just spoke to is that everything around us is sacred. But in the tradition that I was raised in, that many of us were raised in, we're taught just the opposite, that actually women in particular were...

the ones to create that original sin. And so I think now in this age,

Jennifer Whitkaer (23:51.525)
where women are waking up to the truth of, wait, maybe I am not riddled in inadequacy and sin. Perhaps I am the embodiment of the divine and the sacred. And that's, again, why I so deeply resonate with the Celtic tradition is because it supports that belief and that truth. And so many of us have forgotten this. We've been raised in a world that values certainty over mystery with

external validation of our inner wisdom. And so from a young age we learn to reach outward to prove, to please, to perform, and then suddenly we forget who we are and we lose touch with our sacredness. What is the cost of us forgetting our divinity?

John Philip Newell (24:43.118)
Well, I think your use of the word remembering is really important. And in the Celtic world, it was said that we have forgotten who we are. It was said we suffer from soul forgetfulness. And Christ is seen, is spoken of by some of the early Celtic teachers as our memory. And so we have forgotten who

and Christ is seen as awakening us to our true essence. In so much Western Christian thought, the Christ mystery has been pointed to almost as an exception to humanity rather than a disclosure of what is deepest within all of us. So when that...

the sort of call to return to the divine is heard within us. Certainly in the Celtic world, it's not about invoking foreign divine energy. It's not about invoking a limitedly transcendent divine energy. It's about waking up or remembering that this is our essence.

And I think that's a very liberating experience because part of that remembering our essence as divine means we're not looking to become something other than ourselves. We're being invited to become truly ourselves. And we're not being invited to become something other than natural or more than natural, that we're being invited to become truly, truly natural.

And it has enormous implications, doesn't it, in terms of how we view ourselves, how we view one another, how we view the essence of every life form. But to realize that our essence is of God, that we're made of God, not simply by God, is to invite us to wake up to the wisdom.

John Philip Newell (27:13.666)
that is deep within us and it's pure gift of God. It's not something of our own creating or achieving. It's waking up to that wisdom that is deep within us. And similarly, it's about waking up to the creativity that is deep within us and to the holy faculty of imagination that leads us into what we've never...

known before. And so I think that all these positive ways of returning to the divine essence, it has the sort of flip side. I think if we continue to live in a state of forgetfulness, then we will often see wisdom as something outside of us, rather than the core of our being.

or we'll think that creativity is something that we somehow need to achieve rather than letting that divine essence come forth in creative ways.

Jennifer Whitkaer (28:26.601)
Yes, and we talked earlier about how we tap into that, how we remember through our practices.

And I've noticed a pattern in so many of the women that I work with and I myself have felt it too, is that we'll have this moment of clarity after a walk in the woods or we'll feel deeply connected after or during a ritual or a meditation. We remember who we are. We feel that connection to something greater. And then life pulls us back. The emails, the dishes, the deadlines, the fast pace. It's like we all of a sudden slip back into autopilot of forgetfulness before we even realize.

that we're in that state. And we know that these practices can be really powerful, but staying connected to the remembrance every day feels really challenging. So can you share a little bit of why you think we keep falling asleep and how we stay in relationship with ourselves, with the earth, with the divine, especially in the midst of a very fast-paced daily life?

John Philip Newell (29:28.994)
Yeah, I mean, I think that there's tremendous pressure on us in our religious systems, our cultural systems, our university educational systems. I think there's a lot of pressure to continue these systems as they've been put in place. And they are highly convenient systems for

for those in power. so I think there's a lot of sort of pressure on us to conform to that system that's been governed by hierarchy, whether that be the sort of hierarchy of religious truth and authority, or whether that be the sort of hierarchy of power or...

the sort of even hierarchy in so many of our educational systems and a real neglect of inner listening, of knowing inner creativity. So I think it's in part easier to live in a state of forgetfulness if that continues to serve the status quo because then we're not

living the challenge of redeeming or transforming those systems. And I think that the way of living especially to be made of God is to be made of love. And my goodness, that's pretty demanding. So if we would prefer not to know the cost of love, then...

than live with serving ego or live with serving the ego of our nation rather than the well-being of the world or live with serving the ego of the human species and not the other species and so on. So I think that certainly in the Celtic world, Jesus is honored and reverence as the one who shows us the way of love and the liberation of that way.

John Philip Newell (31:53.336)
but also the costliness of that way. And here we are in the week coming out of remembering suffering, remembering crucifixion. the Jesus story is a challenging story because it shows us repeatedly that

that being true to the way of mercy, being true to the way of forgiveness, being true to the way of compassion is a costly way. So there's a type of convenience to living in forgetfulness, even though that also robs us of the sort of infinite depths that are within us waiting to come forth in new and creative ways.

Jennifer Whitkaer (32:50.419)
And you speak about the structures and the systems that are set up. Do you feel like it's almost intentional of this linear, very rigid formulas for us to move within in order for us to survive? And I'm doing air quotes of thriving. When our natural systems are...

and you know if you just even look at the earth is very cyclical and so we are coming from this and operating in this very rigid linear system and society when our truth calls us into something more cyclical and I wonder if living into a more cyclical framework would help us stay more rooted in our remembrance.

John Philip Newell (33:46.274)
Yes, absolutely. paying attention to what Earth knows, paying attention to the rhythms of Earth, is for me guidance for paying attention to the rhythm of the soul and the seasons of the soul.

I mean, the two are so inseparably connected that absolutely that to be sort of grounded in nature's wisdom and the spirituality of the universe, the spirituality of Earth, is to enter a realm of repeatedly being

grounded in that intersection between spirit and matter.

Jennifer Whitkaer (34:46.933)
There's an intimacy that's required to do this. So isn't there?

John Philip Newell (34:54.818)
Yeah, and I think we've been speaking about individual practices of paying attention within and following our individual disciplines or patterns of meditation. But deep in the Celtic world, there's this very beautiful dimension that is...

referred to as the importance of having an Anamkara, having a lover of the soul. That can be an individual, but it can also, in a sense, be a collective. can be being in a context where you show one another what is arising in the soul.

not because the Anumkara, not because the lover of my soul knows more of what is within me than I do, but because my Anumkara loves me and I'm set free to explore what is rising. So I think it's not just an individual practice, it's very much a collective, it's a relational way of growing.

And in that too, even it absolutely reflects the interrelatedness of the natural world and that the part will not be well if the whole is not well, that we will be well only to the extent that we're serving and conscious of and compassionate about one another's well-being as well as one's own.

Jennifer Whitkaer (36:40.795)
Mm-hmm. Yeah, so what I'm hearing and what about I've experienced and I know with the women that I work with as well the real shift happens is when our Is when we really root ourselves in that soulful connection with ourselves with each other with the earth What has your sacred union with the divine and with nature helped you remember about yourself?

John Philip Newell (37:06.712)
Come here, you should go ahead. I've been speaking too much.

Cami Twilling (37:09.782)
No, no, I think, I think something you said a minute ago, Jennifer, about when you go for a walk, you know, whether it's just just out just outside in your neighborhood or through the forest or there's something that shifts in us. And, you know, then we get back to the daily, you know, the dishes, the emails, the phone calls, all of these things. But I think something so important is we remember that

connection that we had when we were out walking. We remember that. And, you know, every day I go out for a walk at this lake by my house. And so often I see people, you know, with their headphones in and, you know, we're listening to music or a podcast or something, you know, it's almost this multitasking while we're out walking. And so I have the practice of, you know, not putting anything into my ears. I just walk and

you know, thoughts arise, things come. But it also have more of, think, of an awareness of the changing of the seasons, of the feel of the air on my skin, of the warmth of the sun on my face. All these these ways that we maybe they're still happening, but we're maybe not paying attention if we're, you know, talking on the phone or listening to something in our ears as we walk. And just these

these really simple ways of bringing us back into relationship with Earth. And, you know, there's a practice we use in our retreats for one of our spiritual practices of sacred listening. And it's a way of being in relationship with one another in as we listen, you know, placing our hand on our heart is a way of saying, I am here and I am listening. You know, we live in this society that demands

so much of our attention and it's about like, look at this, look at me, you need this, you need that. And we do it in our relationships too, where someone's speaking and often instead of listening, we're busy formulating our thought or our advice or our, whatever we have to say in response instead of simply holding space for someone and.

Cami Twilling (39:36.212)
in giving them our full presence. And I think we can offer that to ourselves as well of that deep listening within listening to Earth, listening to our own heart, our gut, what it is that's within us. And I think having that awareness that even in the midst of doing the dishes, I think it's the Buddhist tradition that says when you're doing the dishes, just do the dishes.

So we can bring this practice into the ordinary parts of our lives where we do have to respond to emails, we do have to do the dishes. But how do I practice that presence in the midst of each thing that I'm doing? How do we touch each present moment in a way that brings us back into our true self?

because we're pulled in so many directions. I think it's not that we have to go out into the forest, which is important and lovely to do, but we also have to practice finding that space. That space is within us, you know, it's not just outside of us. And how do we find that space in our everyday lives?

Jennifer Whitkaer (40:58.173)
Isn't that interesting though? It's like we resist it, but that's what we're so deeply yearning for is that deeper connection, that soulful connection. And I think even, I mean, I think we all even as a species, but even more specifically women, I feel like we are just craving this intimate connection with each other, with the earth. And we've been fragmented and disconnected from that. And just by slowing down and being

present to listen to the other person or be present to hear the birds around you. Or I like to say even when I'm sitting in front of somebody just realizing that I am speaking to the divine there, the embodiment of the divine is sitting right in front of me. How incredible and miraculous is that and being fully immersed in that miracle.

And again, we're just, think craving this and yet we're so rushing from everything, one thing to the next and multitasking, like you said, when that is actually just like creating the vicious cycle that we really desperately want to get out of anyways.

Cami Twilling (42:11.65)
Mm-hmm.

John Philip Newell (42:12.024)
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Jennifer Whitkaer (42:15.231)
Yeah.

John Philip Newell (42:16.332)
I think the remembering thing for me has been very liberating in relation to my work as a writer and a teacher. Because I think one of the things that remembering has released in me is a knowing, and this relates very much, Jennifer, to what you were just saying about

when we're with another person and when we're looking into the light that comes from their eyes, this is light that began at the Great Flaring Forth. And this is light from the divine and it's still sort of shining from within the other. But for me, it's been really important to

to know that any wisdom or any truth that I can simply articulate and give expression to is already in the heart of my listener, is already in the heart of my reader. And that's been very liberating for me to know that my role is not in any sense to think that I'm dispensing wisdom that isn't already there in the heart of the other.

that I'm being given the opportunity to be part of a liberation of the wisdom that's already in my listener. that, you know, our model of we have truth, you don't let us generously share it with you, it carries a lot of weight of responsibility.

that I think is a false way of being. so how about we see ourselves as liberators of one another and know that any sort of beauty of creativity, any wisdom of creativity that flows through us is flowing in order to release that flow within one another.

Jennifer Whitkaer (44:43.065)
You share that in one of the first few pages of your book, Sacred Earth, Sacred Soul. And I remember so vividly reading that and underlining it underlining it and underlining it. It's in the midst of...

John Philip Newell (44:52.994)
Ha

Jennifer Whitkaer (44:55.495)
myself going through my spiritual direction practice and I was carrying the heavy weight of that responsibility of I need to know everything. I need to be this wise sage and be able to come and share this information with my clients. And when I read that, it was a turning point for me of no, I don't have to have all the answers. I'm not supposed to know all the answers. In fact, I'm doing a disservice to my clients if I'm coming into our sessions with that when it is simply

a mirroring and speaking of what is on my heart and trusting that the divine is speaking through me and that it is awakening.

divine that's within them as well. And so it's a mutual, it's a reciprocal relationship and partnership versus a me distilling my wisdom upon somebody else. And I just wanted to underscore that too, because it actually, that was really a big turning point for me in my career. And I know so many people who are listening are either consultants or coaches or spiritual directors and they're

carrying that heaviness and that weight. And so I just wanted to pause there and just have people just sit with that for a moment that that is not your responsibility. That you are doing a disservice when you come with that concept in your mind.

John Philip Newell (46:14.36)
Yeah, absolutely. And that's not to downplay or diminish the real work that's involved in creativity and the various charisms that were given. But I think it comes from a deeply liberating place so that we're prepared to do the work in a new way and not...

not feeling that we're having to somehow generate this creativity or this wisdom or this compassion. It's doing the work of getting the ego out of the way to truly allow a deep flowing of...

Jennifer Whitkaer (47:02.069)
I want to shift gears a little bit and highlight one of the most powerful moments in your book is your reflection on Brigitte and the Celtic belief that all things are birthed from the dark.

And I think that that image is extraordinarily comforting, especially in a world that glorifies the light, the bloom, the arrival, and especially it's comforting because so many of us feel like we are living in darker times right now.

How can we lean into her spirit during our own times of darkness? And what does she teach us about that gestation period, the mystery and the unseen beginnings of new growth?

John Philip Newell (47:50.572)
Yeah. Yeah, I think we're finding in someone like Bridget.

a sort of celebration of the dark fecundity of Earth and that that sort of fecundity of soil from which, you know, I'm sitting here gazing out at some amazing blossoming happening in the trees and bushes. This comes out of the dark, sort of moist fecundity of Earth.

And I think one of the very sort of beautiful things that Bridget conveys to us and the many myths and legends about Bridget that hold great truth for us is that this fecundity of Earth that we look to with real expectation, know, this can be a fairly sort of barren place in the winter, the north of Scotland and...

But here we are expecting and sort of expecting with great celebration that the spring earth is going to throw up new life again. I think the realization that in the darkness and fecundity of the human soul, there's new life waiting to come forth from within us just as it comes forth from the spring.

Cami Twilling (49:25.006)
Hmm

John Philip Newell (49:28.064)
spring earth. So I think that's a really important piece and it's remembering always the connection between the human soul and the soul or the essence of earth is remembering the connection between nature and grace so that the sort of energies of grace are given once again not to

to make us something other than natural. They're not given to make us something other than ourselves. They're given to really release this bursting forth of new beginnings. Always, the soul is forever wanting to throw forth new beginnings, just as Earth is. And that's...

That again is a liberating path, is a path that allows us to experience the letting go to these deep energies of new beginning, even in times of course not knowing exactly what's going to come out of the fecundity of soul.

but a type of faithfulness to the true depths of the soul is the stance that we're being invited into individually, but also collectively. So in this time of enormous challenge, when it seems that the holders of power are opposed to sacredness of earth, opposed to sacredness of the feminine, opposed to...

to the sacredness of the lives of those who are powerless. Those sort of destructive powers may be getting the headlines, but I think something much deeper within the human soul is trying to come forth. although this is a very challenging moment in time, I think that

John Philip Newell (51:55.438)
that it's a time that is inviting us to realize that something much deeper than those destructive forces that are pushing down against Earth and the feminine and the powerless, that there are these mighty energies of resurrection or new beginnings.

Jennifer Whitkaer (52:17.589)
And what role does the sacred feminine play in this threshold moment that we're collectively living through?

John Philip Newell (52:27.042)
I think that the sacred feminine within us, and I want to put it in those terms, because I see that to be made of the divine is to be made of that marriage or union of both the sacred feminine and the sacred masculine. So when I speak about sacred feminine energies, I'm speaking of energies that I believe are deep in me as well as in you.

and deep within men as well as women and deep within us collectively as well as individually. But I think that the sacred feminine in us holds great energy for... it holds great birthing energies. And I think that one of the features of the sacred feminine that we see in someone like Bridget in

in the Celtic world is that the feminine depths of our being, I think, are much more open to the holy interrelatedness of all things. And my goodness, do we ever need to sort of reaccess that gift of the divine feminine within us?

Jennifer Whitkaer (53:56.277)
So many people who have been featured in your book have been misunderstood or exiled for their devotion to the sacredness of the earth. Why do you think that this is such a common fate for those who choose this path? And I really wanted to ask this because for so many women, the fear of rejection really runs deep, especially when it comes to reclaiming their voice and their power.

So I would love to know, like, why do you think that this is a common path? And how do we find the courage to walk it anyways, even if it means being rejected?

John Philip Newell (54:37.184)
I think so many of the sort of power structures of our religion, of our sort of political structures, of our culture have been sort of manifestations of shadow, shadow masculine energies that have sort of arrayed themselves against earth and against the feminine. So,

These great prophetic figures that I draw from in the Celtic world precisely because they are seeing our deepest spiritual energies as related sacredness of earth and the sacredness of the feminine. They are aligning themselves precisely with the energies and expressions that the shadow masculine is frightened by.

or is trying to dominate and push down. And I think that the shadow masculine within us, within our nations, within our religions, within our cultures, tends to rear its head, especially at times of transition. Because something new is trying to be born, not...

society as we've always known it or power structures as we've known it or religion and some sort of ossified or fixed state. So those birthing energies of the divine feminine in us are forever trying to give birth to something new. And so in times of transition such as we're in now, I think that the shadow masculine is especially frightened.

We saw something similar in the 19th century in the wake of evolutionary thought, for instance, when humanity was being invited to wake up to a realization that life doesn't sort of exist in fixed permanent categories, that everything is unfolding, everything is being invited to become and to unfold.

John Philip Newell (57:03.614)
And so in the wake of evolutionary thought, that's when religious fundamentalism reared its head. And in the Roman Catholic tradition, it was expressed in a form of papal infallibility in more hard edged extreme terms than it had ever been expressed. And in the Protestant world, the fundamentalist within us,

expressed itself in biblical literalism in, again, terms that were more extreme than anything had previously been expressed. So I think, again, we're in this time of transition in which a new way of being, a new way of interrelating, a new way of relationship with Earth.

is trying to be born. And I see that as the deep spirit of this moment in time. And the shadow masculine within our nations, within our religious traditions is frightened stiff and is lashing out in unprecedented ways and really dangerous ways. And to say that the deep spirit of this moment in time is diametrically opposed to what

we see in the Trump administration, for instance, is not to downplay the challenge, but it's to say that the deep spirit of this moment in time is for us and it's for Earth and it's for the sacredness of every human being. So let's serve again, we can serve that wellspring rather than think that we have to somehow sort of create it.

But these are profoundly challenging times, but I think that there are times that invite a deep celebration and hope that we're being invited into a new beginning and not being driven back into fixed and unjust systems and systems that denigrate Earth.

Jennifer Whitkaer (59:25.373)
I couldn't agree more. I totally believe that the divine order in the midst of all of this chaos is birthing that hope and that excitement for what is to come. And I think that in itself can inspire the courage to move through this, to move through that fear of rejection.

So as we think about the beginning of our conversation where we talked about this disconnection and forgetfulness, and then we moved through the remembering and the embodiment of the divine feminine into the place of standing at this threshold.

The final step as we move through this journey, although this is a cyclical, so it continues over and over again, is moving into action. And you say that it's not enough to see compassionately or even feel compassionately. Compassion needs to be embodied. So what does embodied compassion look like in our daily lives? And how can we root ourselves in this spiritual awakening in a very tangible, actionable way, especially as we honor Earth Day? And I know, Kimmy, you'll probably give us a practical step in

just a moment here, but I would love to just close with some thoughts from you, Don Philip, on how we can move from compassion into action.

John Philip Newell (01:00:45.966)
I think that the feeling compassion and thinking, feeling with compassion and thinking compassionately are important components. But I think unless we allow that thinking compassionately and feeling compassionately to flow into action, then I think it

we run the risk of that sort of compassion being dammed up or stopped or stuck within us. And I think that each one of us is being invited to discern how that flow of compassion needs to come to expression. I mean, I think that we can speak and write.

in ways that embody compassion. I think some of us are called on to the big stage, as it were, to very visibly and publicly live compassion in relation to Earth, or live compassion in relation to the refugee crisis, or live compassionate in relation to the big...

some of the big sort of hunger and famine issues of today. And then I think some are called to be living and expressing on a much quieter stage, as it were, a place that may not be recognized by many people, may not be applauded by great numbers. But the importance of even in how...

even in how we look at one another, even in how we listen to one another and speak to our neighbor or the person we encounter in work or in the shop. These are important acts of compassion. And often it's these little more hidden, quiet, humble actions of compassion that can play a

John Philip Newell (01:03:07.114)
sort of an accumulative role in bringing real change. And, you know, I think, for instance, of the situation in Ireland, you know, in the British context, we often remember the Good Friday Accord, you know, they received international attention, was when the big guys of political power, you know, agreed on certain...

certain actions which were important and which helped the Irish move into a more reconciled and peace-filled experience for the nation. But it was prepared by years of Roman Catholic mothers and Protestant mothers deciding that they would take their children to a shared daycare and having cups of tea together.

And that sort of much quieter but essential compassionate work and embodiment. So I think we just need to keep paying attention to what is my particular role in this work of redemption. And I I use the word redemption, because it's often been a misunderstood word, I want to remember what

Martin Buber, the great Jewish teacher said that redemption is about the restoration of betweenness. It's about coming back into true relationship with Earth. It's about coming back into true relationship with one another. So these important ways of embodying compassion, whether it's in quiet or humble.

spheres or whether it's in much more public and noticeable realms are I think both indispensable in the work of truly restoring betweenness again.

Jennifer Whitkaer (01:05:17.109)
So beautiful. And I see this as this sacred union of both the feminine and masculine energy that you said does live within all of us. When we not just feel compassionately or think compassionately, when we move it into action, that is that sacred union right there. And Cami, you're going to guide us into a spiritual practice to help us embody this sacred union within us.

grounding us and guiding us into our next steps. Will you lead us in a short practice?

Cami Twilling (01:05:49.066)
Sure. So I think something really important to say as we move into practice is that that word is something we need to pay attention to. It's a practice. It's not a if I do this one time, then, you know, I've got it figured out. But it's something that we're being invited into in lots of different ways and as something that we practice every day. And also, as we enter into to this

being really kind and gentle with ourselves, just as we would if we were teaching a young child something, they were learning something for the first time. It's easy to think, well, I should be able to do this at such a simple practice. But sometimes the most simple things can really be the ones that challenge us the most as well. So I would say, let us all offer one another and ourselves, especially

kindness and compassion and gentleness as we enter this practice. So I invite you just to place your hand on your heart. Maybe for you, it's your gut. It's wherever it is when you drop out of your thinking mind down into your body. So your heart or your gut, wherever it is for you that feels a grounding space, a place to listen from. And just notice your breath for a moment.

Cami Twilling (01:07:28.61)
and then speak these words within yourself.

Speak your name.

And simply say, I am here and I am listening, paying attention to what is arising within you. What is stirring within you in this moment from what you've been hearing. What's been coming up for you. And I'll just give us a few moments of silence to speaking your name and saying, I am here and I am listening.

moving from your head down into your heart or gut, and simply paying attention to what is arising in you. I'm here and I'm listening.

Cami Twilling (01:09:35.495)
Bringing yourself back into awareness of this present moment.

Cami Twilling (01:09:51.862)
knowing that this is a practice that you can turn to at any moment, at any place, and also taking this practice out into nature, finding, you know, whether it's sitting with a plant in your home, leaning against a tree, but using this practice also as a practice of listening to earth.

So going and sitting like the tree I was speaking about that I hug each morning, maybe spending some time sitting by that tree, leaning against it, saying, I am here and I'm listening again, moving from our head, from me telling the tree about, know, you're so rooted and you're so grounded and I could learn this from you. Instead saying to the tree, I am here and I'm listening and holding that space for earth to speak to us.

We definitely need to listen deeply to Earth at this moment in time. know, today is Earth Day, but it's not every day, Earth Day. We need to listen deeply to Earth. So I would invite you to use this practice again as a practice, something that you come to again and again as a way of listening to that deep wisdom that is within your own being, the deep wisdom

that is an earth. And when we think about that juxtaposition between our thinking minds, you know, up in our heads and then down in our heart or our gut of that deep listening space within, and we think about what's in between those, it's our throat, it's our voice. And that is where that compassion action, that speaking up and speaking out can come forth a way of grounding through

both the gift of our wisdom, our thinking minds, and also that inner knowing, that inner listening, and how we speak and act and live in the world. So I hope this is a practice that you will carry with you, knowing it's something you can do anywhere, in any moment.

Jennifer Whitkaer (01:12:06.065)
So beautiful, Gemi. Thank you so much.

Thank you and thank you, John Philip, for guiding us back to what is sacred within ourselves, within the earth, and within each other. May we find the courage to remember and to listen and to embody this awakening today and in all the days to come. I'll share in our show notes how to connect with both of our incredible guests and to learn more about their retreats and to also get

John Philip Knowles' most recent book, The Great Search. Thank you both again for being here. Such a beautiful conversation.

Cami Twilling (01:12:47.896)
Thanks Jennifer.

John Philip Newell (01:12:48.122)
Thank you, Jennifer. Many blessings to you.

Jennifer Whitkaer (01:12:49.481)
Thank you. Thank you.

05

05. The Five Shifts I Made to Manifest My Most Abundant Year   (Solocast)

Transcript

Welcome to the Rooted Women Rise Podcast with host Jennifer Whitaker, feminine business mentor, divine Feminine Guide, and former executive who scaled multimillion dollar organizations and now supports women in doing the same. This is for the woman who's ready to break free from hustle culture, reclaim her feminine power, and scale her business with simplicity and ease.

Here we blend strategic growth with ancient wisdom and nature-based practices to support the rise of a wildly successful business rooted in your feminine energy and divinity. Every month we'll explore topics like feminine energetics, seasonal cycles and rituals, and aligned business growth, transforming them into simple, actionable steps so you can expand your abundance, nurture your soul, and embody your most magnetic self.

Are you ready to rise into her, the sacred, wise and prosperous woman you came here to be? Let's [00:01:00] get started. Welcome to the podcast. I am so happy to be here with you today. This is gonna be a really fun episode, one that I have been meditating on all week. Spring is. Finally here where I live in Tennessee, the red buds are blooming.

The cherry blossoms are alive with bees, and the evenings are so warm. Just warm enough that I've been able to eat my dinner outside on my patio, but just a few weeks ago, it snowed. It is so wild how quickly things can change, and as I was walking in nature this week, I started to reflect on the lessons that Spring has to offer us in business and in abundance [00:02:00] because one moment.

Everything looks like it's frozen, like it's still, or even lifeless or dead, and then suddenly out of nowhere it seems life bursts into full bloom. I. And it had me reflecting on how similar this is to our businesses and our abundance, because sometimes it can look like nothing is working. Your launch wasn't as successful as you had hoped.

You spend an hour on Instagram preparing your post, writing out your caption, and then you only get two likes. Or you are not attracting as many clients as you like, and then all of a sudden, just like spring, it all shifts. All of a sudden you've got [00:03:00] dream clients dropping into your dms that feel like they just came out of nowhere, or your latest post goes viral or all of a sudden your program is fully sold out.

And I wanted to share a story of a sudden winter to spring transformation that I had years ago, and it started where I was in one of the lowest seasons of my life, and then all of a sudden I manifested everything on my vision board following what felt like a forever winter season. For those of you who are new here and haven't heard this part of my journey, first of all, welcome.

I'm so happy you're here, and the story that I wanna share, in summary, I'm gonna go into depth in just a moment. In [00:04:00] summary, what happened is that I went from barely covering my rent to becoming the youngest executive in my field. Working with Dr. Jane Goodall, being featured in the New York Times and on NPR all within three short years.

And it all started with some construction paper, a big dream, and my vision board. On today's episode, I'm gonna walk you through the five powerful shifts I made to manifest everything I desired and ultimately create my most abundant year. At that time, I've created other abundant years, many of them since.

But I wanna underscore that this wasn't luck. It was intentional alignment. And in this episode, I'm gonna walk you [00:05:00] through those five shifts that I made that changed everything. If you're in a season of planting and not quite seeing the full bloom yet, this episode is your reminder that it is all unfolding.

It's all unfolding right now and everything is about to change. So let's dive in. Let me take you back to 2010. I was living in Chicago and was slowly putting the pieces of my life back together After leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, I had been spending a lot of time following that relationship, really anchoring and rooting into self worth practices.

Really owning and embodying my divine worth, my confidence, and I had [00:06:00] also applied and been accepted to a master's program and I. At this time, I was almost at the end of that program, just to give you context. So I was closing another chapter and I was ready to start a new one, and I was crystal clear on what that vision looked like.

I. And so I decided that I wanted to create a vision board that embodied and represented this vision that I had for my next chapter. So as I got my pictures and my poster board and construction paper, I scattered it all over my little apartment room floor, and I created a vision board that included a map of the southeastern US because I wanted to live closer to my [00:07:00] family.

I included pictures of apes because I wanted to work at a primate sanctuary. I pasted on words assistant director because that was the title that I wanted for my next position, and I pasted a fake check written out to me for my dream salary. Then in the center of this poster board, I had the date, April 15th, 2011, written on a piece of construction paper because that was my desired deadline for securing my dream job.

April 15th came and went, and I still remain focused on my dream. I still remain rooted. I. In the vision on [00:08:00] April 15th, three days after my desired deadline, I discovered that a chimpanzee sanctuary in Louisiana was looking for an assistant director, and I immediately applied that day. They responded, and they told me that they were actually about to offer that position to someone else.

And when they saw my resume, they decided to wait to make that offer and they asked me to fly to the sanctuary. I flew there that week. I met the team and I was offered the position. A few days later, I. Wild, right. Everything on my vision board came true. The location, the title, the job, the salary, and the date, just shy of a few days, and since then I have used the same process to continuously [00:09:00] create my most abundant life.

So what did I do between the vision board and the manifestation? Well, that is what I wanna share with you today. I did five key things. Number one, as the date approached, I spent every day in nature. I felt into my expansive and future self in nature. I allowed the stillness and the quiet to bring forth past experiences and beliefs that needed to be released.

I heard so clearly my intuitive wisdom and that guided my next steps, and on the days that I couldn't get outside, I listened to. Sounds of nature, bird sounds, um, rain [00:10:00] and thunder. I listen to nature sounds on CDs. Yes, I am dating myself, but it worked. It worked because when we are aligned with nature. We enter into theta states where our brainwaves actually put us into these states where they're similar to that in meditation and hypnosis.

And so we are more open to receive intuitive downloads. We are more open to be creative. We're more in tune with our divinity and our magnetism. And so when you think about manifesting your deepest desires and connecting with nature, I don't want you to think about this like a checklist. I. This is so much [00:11:00] more.

It's about becoming intimate with yourself, intimate with nature. I like to say that if you don't figuratively or literally have dirt underneath your fingernails, you are not deeply connecting to the power of nature. So get outside. Allow yourself to remember who you are and be led to your next step through the wisdom of nature and by aligning yourself with the rhythms of nature.

Number two, I tapped into my future self every single day. I knew exactly what she felt like. I knew exactly who she was. I knew the decisions that she made. I knew how she dressed, how she talked, how she thought, how she shopped. I knew her. So every single day as I [00:12:00] tapped into her energy and I felt into her, it was very much a feeling tone of leaning into how she felt.

Every time I did that, I closed the gap between her and who I was. In that moment. When it came time to making decisions, I would ask myself the simple question, what would you have me do? You was my future self. So spend some time really connecting with your future self. Who is she? What does she feel like?

How would she move forward through her days? And when you start doing this every single day, I guarantee you, you will close the gap between where you stand right now and where you want to be. Number three, I made peace with my past, my present, and my future. When it came to my past, there were [00:13:00] people that I needed to forgive.

I needed to forgive myself for past decisions, and I needed to ask for forgiveness from bridges that I burned, and so I. Had those difficult conversations. I wrote forgiveness letters and I did a really deep forgiveness process that I now lead my clients through. It's a three stage forgiveness process because most of the time when we go through a forgiveness process, we do it on a very surface level.

We say, okay, I forgive you for doing X, Y, or z. At the core, at the root, there really isn't an embodied forgiveness. We're doing it because we know that it's good for us, it's healthy for us. It's a way for us [00:14:00] to move from the past and into a healthier future. But when you really unpack it, you know that deep down, you haven't truly forgiven the person or yourself for the experience, for the decisions that were made.

And so my three part forgiveness process really gets to the root and creates soul level transformation. I had a private client that I led through this process and I. I received a text from her just a few days after the process and she said, oh my gosh, I wrote 19 pages of forgiveness and now I feel so light, I feel so free.

I had no idea that I was carrying this much weight, this much resistance over decades of my life. And just a few days after that [00:15:00] process, she attracted a investor for her business. And up to that point it had been crickets. And so I definitely see this direct correlation between deep soul level forgiveness of others and yourself, and making peace with the past.

But I don't stop there. I also make peace with the present. I accept that this is where I am and it is good. I'm supposed to be here, and if where I'm at feels a little uncomfortable and I wanna be somewhere else, I explore that. I get curious around that, and that allows me to re release any resistance that I have in my present.

So making peace with your present is also really, really important to do, and then I make peace with the future. [00:16:00] Sometimes the future can feel so far away and it can feel like, oh my gosh, I feel frustrated and resentful that the future is taking so long to get here. And so I make peace with the future as well.

So making peace with your past, your present, and your future will dissolve that resistance. This is shadow work. This is that deep inner work that has to happen before you manifest your deepest desires. Number four, I listened to and followed my intuition. There was a moment right before I manifested everything on my vision board, where I had realized, wow, I haven't been applying to jobs lately.

And up to that point, I had been applying to jobs [00:17:00] continuously, and then I realized one day. It's been like three or four weeks since I've applied for anything, and my intuition said, you need to get online right now. I remember so vividly that I was actually in the middle of something. I was busy, but the thought came to me.

You need to get online right now and look for a job at a primate sanctuary. So I got onto a job board. In that moment, even though it wasn't convenient, I got onto the job board and I saw this listing, the listing that for the job that I ended up getting, and I immediately applied. So I didn't delay. I followed through right in that moment.

The next day when I went back to look at that job description, it had been taken down and later on I talked to the hr, um, [00:18:00] director and they told me, yeah, the day that I went on was the last day that it was listed. The posting expired that day. So my intuition guided me at the perfect time for me to reach out.

And then I did my part by following through without delay, without questioning, without getting caught in the busyness of my day. And I followed through, which allowed me to manifest everything on my vision board. So if you get an intuitive nudge, listen to it. Don't question it, follow through immediately because you never know where it is going to lead you.

Number five, I became an authority in my field. I called every single well-known primatologist that I could find around the world, and [00:19:00] I asked them how they got into their field. I asked them for advice and guidance and mentorship. I started my own. Primate education program for kids. I spoke at conferences.

I volunteered at the top organizations in town. I read every book. I looked for gaps in my field and I filled them. I. This is the strategic action that comes from intuition as well. So yes, I have mentioned and shared a lot of energetic shifts that you can make, but it has to be coupled with action and not the hustley type of do it all.

Hustle around the clock, doing all these things. What I listed and shared with you, I did over a long period of time. It wasn't all at once, but follow what lights you up, follow [00:20:00] those intuitive nudges and take those steps. So those are the five shifts that I made to manifest everything on my vision board.

One thing I wanna highlight here is this. This is how I manifested. It's not that the steps were magical, it's that I am magical. I tapped into my magic every day because the magic wasn't in the steps that I took. The magic was in the alignment with my essence, with my truth, with my path, and what I teach inside My six month mastermind.

Your most abundant year isn't a rigid step-by-step formula for success. It's where we weave in yes, business strategy, but we weave in your feminine energy. I teach you how to align with your magic, [00:21:00] your formula, your unique way of thriving. There's a word I love in tele. It's the sacred life force within every living thing, and it's what transforms an acorn into the oak tree, the bulb into the flower, and even you, you, into a thriving entrepreneur.

In other words, you are literally wired for success and abundance. So if your business isn't where you want it to be. If it feels like it's not working or it hasn't happened, I wanna invite you to reframe that because a gap doesn't mean that it's not coming. Spring reminds us that a gap means that it's on its way.

So instead of saying it hasn't happened, [00:22:00] say it hasn't happened yet. I can't wait to see how it turns out. Embody that certainty because it's the certainty that will activate your magic. And if you're feeling called to join your most abundant year mastermind, I. Let's hop on a possibility call. I'd love to learn more about you and your business and how I can support you in creating your most abundant year.

I'm gonna drop the link in the show notes, but until next time, I wish you the most beautiful start to your spring, and that you awaken to the certainty that your most abundant year is on its way.

04

04. The Power of Women Creating Community in Nature w/ Gals Off the Grid

Transcript

All right, I'm so excited to join these two amazingly talented, gifted women, Valentina Bain and Susan Alfonso Singer, who are the co-founders of Gals Off the Grid, which is this beautiful community in Nashville and soon to be a global community. And we are going to talk about all things around

building community with women, building authentic connections, and where nature plays a role in all of this. But before we dive into this juicy conversation, I want to kick it off with a question that I ask all of my guests, and that's, what is your spiritual practice that allows you to be rooted as you rise? And Valentina, why don't you go first?

Susan (00:36.839)
Thank you.

Susan (00:41.933)
Thank you.

Valentina Bain (01:00.153)
what a good question to kick it off with. Thank you so much for having me here and having us here. And I'm just so excited about this conversation. Something that I put off for, I cannot tell you how many years, and that often seems to be how it goes, right? We put off, sometimes we resist what we need most, has been, if you've ever heard of The Artist's Way,

Julia Cameron, yes. So it's been writing, but it's free writing. So every morning I start my day with just tuning in with myself, how I'm doing, how I'm feeling. And I just allow myself to just whatever needs to come out on the paper. then I've added to that practice because now I'm bringing in movement and I do a frequency scan and tapping usually. So it's become this really

Jennifer Whitaker (01:30.511)
you

Valentina Bain (01:59.501)
just a sacred time for me before I go wake up all the kids and the hustle bustle begins. So it's just, it's really grounded me before anything else. It has to happen first. It's been a really beautiful way to connect with myself more deeply and understand the rules that are happening in my brain that I didn't even know existed, like right there on the paper. So it's been so powerful.

Jennifer Whitaker (02:25.36)
I love that. And yes, The Artist's Way is such an incredible book and I refer to it all the time and do my morning pages as well. So love that that's your practice. Yeah. How about you, Susan? What's your spiritual practice that allows you to be rooted as you rise?

Valentina Bain (02:33.558)
amazing.

Susan (02:41.26)
Yeah, so first of all, thank you for having us and my mind has gone a few different directions because of the current season that I'm in with a very young child. The goal of course is to wake up and have an hour and a half to myself, but sometimes that doesn't happen. But when it does, it is the most beautiful, important time of my day.

Even if it's not an hour and a half, because I love to make my coffee and then I go outside and grounding myself with nature and watching the sunrise and just putting my face up into the sun is by far the most important moment. Because I'm even meditating with her and I'm just being open and free to connect with what...

the universe source is providing me with that day. So I love to do that. And as well as just when I don't have time, it's like 90 seconds to just sit and ground myself with stillness and just quiet. And the most important thing I realized is how do I want to feel today? So when I actually

instead of like jumping out of bed and like, okay, let's start the day. It's like, well, wait a second. Well, how do I want my day to be? So I have the power to choose that. So when I can actually sit down for if it's only 90 seconds and like, this is how I want to feel today, it's a completely different day. The intention is right there. And then I end up feeling that way. It's a proven fact. It happens all the time when I actually just give myself those 90 seconds.

Jennifer Whitaker (04:24.164)
Yeah, because this is all about building intentionality, right, and creating our lives very intentionally because we're not just here to build businesses, make money. We're not here to hustle ourselves into the ground, but we're here as women to be deeply rooted in something sacred and really to build something and create something that's transformative, not just for

Susan (04:39.039)
Okay.

Jennifer Whitaker (04:48.07)
people, but for our planet from that very intentional space. So I love that that's how you start your day as well. So thank you for sharing both of you.

Valentina Bain (04:55.585)
And Susan, could, thank you. Susan, I was just gonna say, don't you find that when you start your day that way, then throughout the day, if you need, always have the space that you've already created to come back to. Like, I'll find myself coming back to. And by the way, I love writing in the sun in the summer, but it's a little bit chilly here right now, I guess.

Susan (05:09.725)
Right.

Jennifer Whitaker (05:18.924)
Yeah, yeah. So we're recording this. is December here in North America. So yeah, entering the winter season. But yes, I love that we, all three of us very much are drawn to doing our practices outside and connecting with Mother Nature as well. And before we dive into Gals Off the Grid and this beautiful community that you're building in Nashville, and like I said, soon globally,

Susan (05:28.645)
Mm-hmm.

Jennifer Whitaker (05:48.208)
I'd love for you both to tell me about your journeys individually that led you to where you are today. And I know through knowing a little bit about each of you and hearing your stories, that each of you really like listened to your inner wisdom. You honored your roots, you honored your body, you really tuned into that. And each of you have a really special journey that led you to different work prior to launching Gals Off The Grid.

So can you walk me through those journeys and maybe Susan, you could start off.

Susan (06:19.385)
Sure, yes, I would love to. And I would love to say as much as I am rooted into who I am today, it took me over 40 years to get here. And I would just like to say about

A year ago is when I really felt that I am owning who my soul's purpose why I'm actually driven here. But that being said, my background is in the entertainment industry as well as the wellness industry. So it's really cool because as much as I had a passion for the entertainment industry, I was working in reality TV a lot and I was also teaching yoga on the side. Both of those was actually I feel

my soul, my heart was keeping me on my path. Even though I'm like, I can't believe I wasted so many years doing this, or I made a mistake picking this job over that. It was actually leading me to where I am today. So I was working in reality TV where people are actually who they are and you're using your voice, which guided me towards a huge dream of mine to...

use my voice in docu-series and podcasts and things like that, which I'm currently doing now, as well as the wellness industry, which I was always drawn to, which has guided me to where I am in my yoga business, as well as where Gaze Off the Grid is. So it's always interesting how you can look back now as I'm in my 40s and I do believe wiser where, wow, this has really created the path that I'm on where I need to be.

And a year ago, really feel, I think it happened during one of the massive eclipses where the veil was just lifted and I was able to see so much more clearer. So my path right now, and also the fact that for years I was trying to get pregnant. So I went on a very intense fertility journey, which I know so many women, you know, I always say you're part of a community that you don't really wanna be a part of, but that was a big.

Susan (08:25.736)
awakening of my feminine energy. I took my personal journey and turned it into creating fertility yoga as well as a podcast around fertility. And then moving here to Franklin, Tennessee, knowing that this land where we are is the is an extension of of my own spirituality and where my daughter actually really wanted to be born because I was trying to have her in Miami. And the minute we closed on our house here, it's like

I found out I was pregnant, I'm like, she wanted to be a country girl. So, and my journey with my daughter and the feminine energy and where I am with my new podcast and where I am with yoga and gals off the grid, it just all came together and is an extension of me being the pillar of it all. So it was a beautiful journey and here I am today being able to share it with such.

empowerment and confidence of knowing that this is where I'm supposed to be.

Jennifer Whitaker (09:26.918)
Thank you for sharing that. And there was something that really stood out to me. If you don't mind going into a little bit more deeply before we get to Valentina, what was the moment and the awakening that happened with the eclipse?

Susan (09:40.998)
You know, I did, I've been doing my own healing. I wouldn't say I'm someone who dives so deep and I'm going to India and I'm going here and I have this teacher guiding me and it's really just me. And I feel that what has helped me awaken that is my connection to Mother Earth is like the grounding connection of knowing that she like

being outside, I always envision myself and even when I teach yoga and when I'm sitting in meditation, her roots are just coming out and holding me. And the eclipse, think it was like, it was in August, it was like two years ago, it was two eclipses in one. It just really affected me. I don't know if it had something to do with my Vedic astrology chart, but it really opened me up to accepting what is. And I don't know if,

there was a big awakening. just remember looking out my kitchen window and knowing and being more clear and just knowing that's all I can say.

Jennifer Whitaker (10:51.878)
Wow, wow. Yeah.

Susan (10:54.121)
and one more thing, definitely the support of my girlfriends, the support. So important for me, so important.

Jennifer Whitaker (10:59.932)
Mm-hmm.

Yeah, and we're going to unpack that a little bit more about the importance of women having connections in a little bit. But I definitely relate to that as something that lacked in my own life and has really transformed my own personal life and my professional life is by prioritizing those connections. So thank you, Susan. Valentina, how about you? What was your journey?

Valentina Bain (11:31.321)
there's always like where to begin, right? So by the way, Susan, I got chills when you said that Mother Earth roots just reach up and like hold you. It's just, it chills, just, just, I love it. And it's so true. It really comes through the work that you do. So I think in a nutshell, I really struggled with transitioning into being a human.

Susan (11:31.806)
You

Valentina Bain (12:01.573)
it was, my body did not respond well, coming onto earth. I couldn't process the formulas. They couldn't find one that worked. had excruciating, you know, stomach pain that led to malnourishment that led to, learning major learning disabilities and going to special schools and feeling like I didn't understand things. And that led to hormones.

Susan (12:08.829)
you

Valentina Bain (12:30.431)
issues, thyroid, like Hashimoto's, like all of these things before I was 18. So it was this journey of more and more and more of things that were wrong with me. And I kept feeling like I didn't belong. I didn't belong in the city I grew up in. felt I didn't know like, where are my people? And where is my place? And why am I so different from everyone? So it's just that feeling.

Susan (12:38.62)
you

Valentina Bain (12:56.889)
Like I remember just this constant feeling of homesick and my body was really responding to that. Like it was just not doing well. And I think it was, I know it was when I was 17, 18, I found my place. First of all, my first time I ever went to Europe, I like landed on that land and it was like click. was like, I know this place. This is where I belong. Right. But also I moved.

Susan (13:08.764)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (13:26.861)
down to the city, I was living outside of Atlanta and I started learning about the body and health and wellness at 17, 18. I started going to this gym and I began working at the gym and learning and watching people's bodies transform and watching these trainers teach these people how to change their lives. And it was the beginning of me really taking charge of my body and ownership of like how I could help the situation.

Susan (13:39.195)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (13:56.729)
And at the same time, I got attuned to Reiki. So that year was like a whoosh of like, yes, like I moved to Europe that summer. I learned about my body. I started just taking my health into my own hands and my whole world opened up. And from then on, I often say I went down a rabbit hole that I just literally never came out of because I have been collecting modalities and helping people. I actually became a labor doula at 18 because I just had such a passion for

Susan (14:09.146)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (14:27.095)
the way that women's bodies bring life and the way that women like shape the future through how they bring life and how they raise the future generations. So there was just this click for me of me being a part of that and also my participation in that and my main goal became turning my pain into my purpose and empowering other women in every way that I could to learn about their bodies.

Susan (14:38.522)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (14:54.617)
and how to reclaim what we know on a deeper level about ourselves and how to find our tribe and belonging. But all that to say, it was not an easy journey. mean, none of our journeys are like rainbows and butterflies. Some moments feel that way, right? But there's been a lot of ups and downs. And just when I feel like I figured my health stuff out, my kids were born, and it's like the generational...

Susan (15:10.645)
you

Valentina Bain (15:23.307)
like autoimmune stuff hit them and then I was trying to figure that out and deal with their symptoms. And we've come so far now they're teenagers, but all through that time, I never felt like I had, like I had a couple of people that knew me and understood me, but I never felt like I belonged in a community. And it was, well, I don't want to go into like how gals off the grid was formed because that may be another question that you have, but it was, it's so different now.

Susan (15:34.712)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (15:52.899)
for me because of the community that we've built. But that's why, like, I literally felt my whole life that I craved what we have now. So it's been a long path to that.

Jennifer Whitaker (16:01.532)
Mm.

Jennifer Whitaker (16:06.63)
Thank you for sharing that. And you know what really strikes me is some of the similarities in both of your stories is really around the ebbs and flows of life and really just trusting that in the ebbs that you're being guided to something deeper and more aligned. And through the alignment was the emergence of your purpose and community and belonging and a deeper understanding of

Susan (16:32.502)
Okay.

Jennifer Whitaker (16:34.33)
yourself in connection to the earth and the divine feminine and all of that. And I think that's so good to remind women who might be listening, who are going through the more ebbs of their lives, that there is a purpose in this as difficult as this chapter or season may feel, that it is guiding us all to a deeper understanding and commitment to our purpose. So thank you.

Valentina Bain (17:02.615)
Yeah, I wouldn't change a thing. And I know most people feel that way. Yeah, for sure. It's like, it really gets you ready for your own, your purpose in your life. Each unfolding is just so, now looking back, it's just so beautiful. But in the moment, does not feel like it.

Jennifer Whitaker (17:05.103)
Yeah.

Susan (17:07.137)
No

Jennifer Whitaker (17:21.919)
Yeah. And I think that's the key too of really looking back. In those moments that you're in those ebbs, those difficult chapters and seasons, it's like looking back and seeing evidence of how things turned out when you had no idea how they were going to. Because when I look back on my life too, I see a lot of from bullying to being in an emotionally abusive relationship, all of these things that were really difficult seasons of my life.

I feel like we're preparing me to be a mentor to women to help guide them into deeper self-worth and confidence and be like these incredible leaders in their businesses. But it took some of those lessons to prepare me for this. And so I hear very similar sentiments in your stories as well. So thank you. So now can you take me through, so you've led me through this journey, both of you individually.

Susan (18:05.429)
Okay.

Jennifer Whitaker (18:21.54)
take me through how the two of you came together and how the vision of Gals Off The Grid was birthed.

Valentina Bain (18:34.073)
Do you me to do that Susan? Cause I was right there at that part of my story. So I was like, wait, we're going to wait for this question. And here we are. Perfect. So organically arrived. So yeah, Susan and I were brought together and I had been working on manifesting not only friendships, I believe in patterns a lot. And I had a pattern set up in my life when I was in eighth grade, my very best friend. And as I said, I

Susan (18:36.739)
Sure. Yes. Go ahead. ahead.

Jennifer Whitaker (18:42.0)
Yeah.

Valentina Bain (19:02.261)
I had a hard time connecting and feeling understood. My very best friend left. And I felt like ever since then, every time I got close and connected with someone, they just suddenly moved away. And I'm like, I gotta like really heal, you know, the abandonment, the thing there. I don't think I was fully ready until we created Gals Off The Grid. However, I had been setting such a strong intention, like I'm ready to have roots.

Susan (19:10.515)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (19:30.731)
in a community. I'm ready to, not in a way that sacrifices who I am, where I'm just allowed to be parts of who I am, but where in a group of women where I can exist fully and I can grow uninhibitably because that's a problem too, right? And a lot of times in groups, we feel like if we grow that it's just going to get awkward and we've got to like talk them into growing with us. But in a community where growth is celebrated and

Susan (19:35.795)
you

Valentina Bain (19:57.909)
like, people are excited because they want to grow as well. And so, oddly enough, or funny enough, Susan and I were brought together to facilitate a retreat. We were brought together by a mutual contact and she said, let's create a retreat. we like, I knew the first time I met Susan, was like, my gosh, we started talking about our dreams, like on our way out to the parking lot after meeting.

Susan (20:03.582)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (20:25.857)
And my heart just lit up and I was like, I already love her and I already feel like there's something so beautiful here. And I just kept blossoming and it was this friendship that I had just never experienced before. Just like a soul sisterhood at a level of like, not only who, who I am supporting who I am, but also who I know I'm going to become. It was just nourished that as well. And so we kept talking about how we, we both wanted that.

Susan (20:26.489)
You

Susan (20:44.561)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (20:54.923)
and how we both were craving that. And we decided that if we created that together that we should create that for everyone else. Like we should just put it out there. Maybe we could start attracting together more women like us to create this. we have, I mean, it has been incredible. I have more women friends like that I'm deeply connected to that I could talk to anything about than I ever have in my entire life. It has been such a beautiful.

manifestation and evolution. that's what this community, like the foundation, like the heart and intention of this community is like for community and connection. I'll let you speak to that too, Susan, because I know you have your own spin on it as well.

Susan (21:30.64)
Yeah, and that's so beautiful and I felt the same exact way it was it's such it you know, it's amazing how energetically you're brought together and I had a very similar intention when I moved here it was very important for me to find a group of like-minded women and to because I find when I moved here I'm like this is my home I traveled

Valentina Bain (21:39.971)
Thanks.

Susan (21:58.979)
lived in many areas and I friends all over the world, but I'm raising my daughter here. We have a home that we love here. We're planted here. We're rooted here. And I, so it was so important for me to have friends here that were like me, where I can talk, where we can connect with mother nature and talk openly about spirituality and learn biohacking to learn from each other. So when we were offered this opportunity to come together and then Valentina and I came together, we

We did, we blossomed this and we sat with it for a while to really understand, what do we want out of this? Because if we want this, then we know other people are going to want it. And with our backgrounds, we were really drawn to the indigenous wisdom that we seem to have lost throughout these generations, whether it's the indigenous wisdom of Indians who were first brought to this land and learning from them and their modalities of healing.

It's just, it's so fascinating. And then we realized that everything that we do is indigenous as well. Yoga is indigenous. know, all of, you know, Valentina's somatic healing modalities are indigenous. So we were able to create a, a community where we're learning, we're taking the indigenous wisdom and bringing it into our modern life. And also how we say gals off the grid, we want to be able to throw our phone away and just be connected, be together.

exactly who you are. It's very important that women know that they can show up who they are. And honestly, sometimes you don't really know who that person is. And that's where through our events and our workshops and everything that we do, we help find that in you. And then you're around a beautiful group of women that accept you for that person. So it's really, it's been so beautiful. We have really honed in on it this past year and it's just growing from there.

It's really great.

Jennifer Whitaker (23:57.584)
Love that. And I want to talk a little bit more about the central theme that you were saying runs through in the heart that runs through your business, which is very similar to mine. And that is around building those authentic connections with women because like you said, women are really craving this. You are craving this. I too have had to make my own intentional shift in my personal life and in my business because for years I was like…

Susan (24:16.332)
Okay.

Jennifer Whitaker (24:22.94)
prioritizing work over relationships. And Valentina, very similar to your story, I felt like as soon as I would have a new best friend, something would shift where they went into a different season of life or they moved away. And so I never felt like I had those roots of belonging and friendships that I was really craving. And so I had to be very intentional about.

making those connections and now is actually one of my four pillars to creating a thriving feminine business because it's absolutely essential if you want to thrive, I think as a woman or even as a female entrepreneur. So my question for you would be how are you building your community? Because you've clearly have a gift for attracting women into these beautiful experiences while maintaining

I'll use your language, Susan, that cozy vibe. So tell me a little bit about your process of building a community, because I imagine that there's both an art and a science to doing that.

Susan (25:33.003)
Do you me to start? I'll start. Okay, so I would, you know, I would say it's really the human connection.

Valentina Bain (25:35.993)
Sure.

Susan (25:43.1)
It's just that. I feel that the two of us, we've been told this time and time again, you know, just we're coming because of you guys. And I feel energetically what we're holding, we're holding space. Like I said before, we're holding space for you to show up as yourself. Valentina and I have our own experiences, our personal experiences and the experiences of, you know, our...

background and our education to be able to bring you in to what we Yeah to be able to bring you in for example for who you are so I feel like Some of it is definitely just word of mouth through a friend of a friend and then a lot of it had been like coming to my barn yoga classes and then through that Valentina and I have created a community of that and then it's

just friends of friends. And we do things online for sure and do the email marketing and all that. But I would say the cozy vibe has to be that one-on-one connection.

Valentina Bain (26:51.321)
Yeah, I would add to that that I think it starts with intention and our intention got so strong around our vision for not only what we can create for ourselves, but for all the other women out there who are like us looking for what we were craving and also for the end of like to become a bridge between indigenous tribes and you know,

organizations profiting these, like raising funding and awareness for these ancient tribes. it's like, it's almost filling a gap between this generational gap. We're not living with multi-generations and the family most of the time. So it is, it comes down to women creating that community. We can fill that gap for each other if we do it strategically. So I think.

There and within each of us, can step in and be like, Susan knows more about things than I do. I know more about certain things than she might. And the same with for every other woman in our community. And so the women that keep coming are meant to be there, we believe. And they feel a pull. We actually recently had a circle, a full moon circle ceremony. And it was a beautiful evening in the barn on Susan's land in Leapers Fork.

And people didn't want to leave. They wanted to stay. They're like, can we just have a slumber party here, like outside, like camp out? It was just so cozy and so connected and so magical. And we were all doing work on ourselves through meditation and sound healing and intuitive readings and movement. And so it was beautiful, but...

What we did is we were, as we've been around the circle and talked about our intentions, we also, several people without even being prompted shared the ironic, you know, ironic way that they found us. And they were all like, it's almost, you know, that story when you meet a soulmate or like your spouse or whatever, and you tell people like this magical way you met. It's like that. It's like people, when they meet us and we meet them, it's like,

Jennifer Whitaker (29:01.564)
Thank you.

Valentina Bain (29:16.835)
course I met you, of course I found you, of course this happened and I've been waiting on this and I've been wanting this. And so I think it starts with intention and alignment, like where we go, who we connect with, who we partner with, like our partnerships, like this one here. mean, you and I, Jennifer, perfect example. Like we were standing next to each other in a lunch line at a group in Nashville. And just the fact that we figured out in two seconds

Jennifer Whitaker (29:19.1)
Yeah.

Valentina Bain (29:46.349)
that both of us needed to connect, you know? So it's just, I think just being open to that. Yeah.

Susan (29:48.356)
And not to interrupt, and not to interrupt, but we set an intention maybe a week ago of talking, of wanting to connect with someone with your background. So it was out the, what? yeah, maybe a year ago, yeah. but, so it's like, it's their like energy and when it's like a real intention, you're strong about this.

Jennifer Whitaker (29:48.816)
Right.

Valentina Bain (30:04.0)
A year ago, maybe a year ago, you said a week ago.

A year ago. Yeah.

Susan (30:16.886)
It's you're always co-creating and that's what we feel when people are drawn to us. It's like I needed this. They really set it out for themselves to find us as well. Go on.

Valentina Bain (30:30.797)
And there's so much power in that last year we had an event and people were just talking about it. Actually this week at our event, we had a holiday event. Someone was just saying, I was just telling these ladies what I manifested. And it was like a private jet, like clients, clients, you know, it was like, wow, like people send us text messages now around the breakthroughs and around the things they're able to manifest. And that's not the goal, but through like,

Jennifer Whitaker (30:30.82)
Yes.

Susan (30:42.347)
Okay.

Susan (30:49.602)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (30:56.707)
connection and through community and through other women holding that space for you. It is really powerful and that's what we're missing. That's like an ancient way that is missing in today's society, I believe.

Susan (30:58.114)
Okay.

Jennifer Whitaker (31:11.17)
I wholeheartedly agree and I want to get to that in just a minute, but I absolutely agree that intention and setting an intention is essential for us to really align energetically with the vision. And you spoke to something too, that vision. We need to have that clarity of vision too. And I'm so grateful that you shared the story of how you and I met Valentina because I, on my end…

had set my intention and I spent very intentional time envisioning into the women that I wanted to connect with and work with and collaborate with. So both of us individually were dreaming, envisioning and manifesting each other. And yeah, inevitably we are going to be brought together. And it's like, of course, of course I met you. We didn't know when we would meet or how we would meet, but

It is inevitable when you set that intention and you have that clear vision.

Valentina Bain (32:12.099)
Yes, and that's such a powerful way to live your life. I've learned that that's the only way really that I want to live my life because I don't need to control it. There's such a purpose that can come through and it's so much more powerful when the universe is orchestrating those divine meetings and you're flowing with it. It is like, who knows what kind of magic can happen for us all.

Jennifer Whitaker (32:18.769)
Yeah.

Jennifer Whitaker (32:33.614)
I know. And it's such a feminine way to live life. And I think it can be terrifying because we're taught not to trust the unknown, but we can really lean into that and again, have a group of women that you're communing with and building relationships with who are doing the same thing. I think it boosts our courage and confidence to trust the unknown.

Susan (32:50.559)
Yes. Yeah, that's so true.

Valentina Bain (32:56.048)
yes.

Jennifer Whitaker (32:59.43)
So I'm curious too, you talked about all of these women that are joining your community and the breakthroughs that they're having. And I love the image of the night in the barn. I wish I was there because I really want to have a plumber party with you two. You are like my new BFFs. So we'll have to put a pin in that and do that sometime.

Susan (33:12.809)
Thank you.

Yeah.

Valentina Bain (33:26.457)
Yes, please.

Jennifer Whitaker (33:26.468)
Something has to happen and be present for women to really feel safe to make those authentic connections because Valentina, you talked about people coming and going in your life and I too have had that. I imagine, Susan, you probably have similar stories as well. There's so much, I want to say, trauma and disappointment that have happened.

I believe it's through the sister wound and the witch wound and a lot of other patriarchal woundings that have separated us and prevented us from really making those authentic connections. I believe we're working through that. But what do you think has to be present for women to really feel safe to make those authentic connections knowing that we've all had those woundings and we're coming with those woundings?

Susan (34:18.44)
No, go ahead.

Valentina Bain (34:19.321)
I think full acceptance, I can let you answer this, Susan. Full acceptance is what I would say. We had a conversation around this. We grew up in different religious backgrounds, political backgrounds, and I think in today's climate in the world, there's this assumption almost that if you don't check all these boxes as likeness, that you can't hang out, that you can't offer.

you know, that you're not alike, so you shouldn't be friends, you know, and I think it's honestly opposite from the truth, but you have to have, you have to honor the differences and accept the gifts and the differences and the, the lessons that you could, could learn from each other. And if you come at it from like a gentle, loving, beautiful way, it doesn't matter if you don't see eye to eye. And I think,

naturally you'll either come together and spend more time together and want to be together or things won't work out, you know, to be together. So I think that's a part of it as well. I think I got a little off there, but you go ahead, Susan, and answer in your way too.

Susan (35:28.09)
Yeah, I was gonna say that I think there's a shift happening now in this time, the past, I don't know, maybe 10 years about how women are taking back their power and they're just their eyes are opening. I don't know if it's because of the age that I'm in now and where I am in my life, but I feel like so many of my friends who live all over

are having the same experience. They're realizing that they don't want to take a back seat to their relationships, to their careers, to what's happening in society, in the world. And there's this fire that I think is collectively happening inside of many of us women that are like, I need to step up. I need to step up. Whether it's for, know, whatever's happening in the world today, religious, political, all that.

but also like within myself, like something's not right. I only lived this life once and something's off and I wanna figure that out. And I think with those two, I think a lot, those women are the ones that are actually like stepping into the barn, stepping into our community. They're realizing, and maybe it's just a little flicker. Yeah, they're, yeah, something's.

Valentina Bain (36:50.893)
The trailblazers. The trailblazers have break in those generational patterns. Yeah.

Susan (36:51.894)
Exactly. That's what it is. They're breaking the ancestral patterns and they're just realizing like, like I'm done and I want, I want to live like this life of who I'm supposed to live. And I know I have trauma and it could be minute. It could be big, but they're willing to break that now. And we're, we're here to help guide them on that.

Jennifer Whitaker (36:52.924)
you

Jennifer Whitaker (37:20.396)
wholeheartedly agree. I definitely believe that we are entering a new paradigm. What is consoling to me is, as I have moved through my own spiritual journey, is really understanding that I believe that I came here for this time. As uncomfortable as it can be to be a trailblazer because we don't have a map, it is also, I feel like, equally liberating that

We're here to change the world. Like we knew that we were going to come here. We knew we wouldn't have a map. And now it's our job to find our tribe, our community, so that we can trailblaze together. And that's exactly what you're creating. And it's so inspiring and beautiful to watch.

Susan (37:55.57)
Mm-hmm. And it's not like this feminine feminist movement, like...

We hate men. It's not that at all. We need men, like women, like, yes, together. But it's just, yes, it's like this, like, it's like when we talk to you, Jennifer, what did you say about that the goddess, yeah, and the goddess of opening up the first bank, that's where we, yes, that's where we need to get back to.

Valentina Bain (38:19.383)
as an honoring. Yeah.

Valentina Bain (38:27.395)
the masculine and the feminine. and the goddess with the bank, the priestess.

Jennifer Whitaker (38:32.792)
right. The history. Yeah. And for our listeners here, just what I was referring to and sharing with them last week was that in the early days, women were revered and the original banks were led and managed by priestesses who controlled the money. And the banks worshipped

the goddess Juno Moneta. And we don't remember this. We weren't told this. And so there's a lot of part of our healing, I would say, is the remembrance of who we were and that we literally are wired for abundance and wealth. so coming together in community, I think, awakens that remembrance too.

Susan (39:18.687)
Yes, I got the chills when you said that.

Jennifer Whitaker (39:25.116)
What role do you think nature also plays in forming these deeper connections with women and also like what role do you think nature plays in awakening the remembrance as well?

Valentina Bain (39:26.649)
So beautiful.

Susan (39:38.742)
Okay, I'll just share this beautiful story. So we have land in

Jennifer Whitaker (39:42.864)
I would say Valentina, do you want to go with that one?

Valentina Bain (39:45.145)
I was just gonna say Susan, you go, feel like I've been answering all of them. But also this is Susan's like favorite topic because she's always talking about, you know, the mother and how earth heals us. And that's one of her and also Susan, you should share about your land. Like it's just so powerful. Okay, I'll let you share.

Jennifer Whitaker (39:47.42)
I'm Susan Garret!

Susan (40:06.338)
outside of Nashville and that's where I have my barn yoga classes. That's where Valentina and I have a lot of our gals off the grid events from our full moon circles to forest bathing. So we had a forest bathing event and I was explaining we had a historian come to our land to let us know that the Chickasaw Indians were the ancestors of this land and they were the ones that lived on it hundreds of years ago. And as I was explaining to everyone,

one of my bracelets, my beads, just broke off. throughout the, and then I took the beads and as we went for our forest bathing walk, I threw them in the creek and then did a little prayer. And one of the women in our community is a medium. She's very intuitive and she gets downloads and she was feeling the energy of the feminine Indians that were once on the land and letting me know that

They are so happy that we're here on the land and that I am like a conduit for them and for what's going on and for me to keep doing what I'm doing. And the issue just went on and on. was so beautiful. And with that story, I'm like, I don't really know what that meant, but okay, I'm feeling it. I'm kind of feeling it too, because prior to that, Valentin and I had an ancestral workshop. So we feel like...

they knew we were there and we were bringing up this beautiful, loving energy of the feminine because we were told that there was a lot of masculine energy on the land for generations and the fact that we were bringing this feminine energy, this community. And then I needed everyone, like at one point, finally everyone left and I was being called, like drawn back to go back down to where the creek was on land. And I went down there and I just,

started crying for like an hour. I have no idea why. And I felt this beautiful Indian woman on my shoulder holding me and I could not stop crying. It was so profound and I didn't want to leave but I had to get home and I drove home crying. And then I came home and just being back into this world, I couldn't deal with the light. I went outside, it wasn't working. I grabbed my daughter. I went back to my land because it's only about 20 minute drive.

Susan (42:27.927)
And I sat there with her and had her play in the creek where the beads were and just, it was just so, I can't tell you how, it's like the energy, it doesn't go away. We're not, when we pass, we are not going away. Our soul, our force is within the ground and Mother Earth, I always say, holds it for us. She holds our tears, she holds it all, she wants us.

She wants us to heal and be the most amazing human we know we can possibly be, and she's here to hold that, and so are these ancestors. And mind you, I am not someone who is digging in the dirt, knowing every plant and finding herbs and doing crazy medicinal as much as I want to. Like, I'm not this crazy witchy girl in the land. Like, I am your just next door neighbor.

who is just so drawn to, and I thought I was connected to the Pacific Ocean because I lived out in California for many years and I just loved those waves. But when I came here and felt the land and the ground and the trees, I'm like, wow, she's vibrating in me. So sorry to go on this crazy story. Thank you.

Jennifer Whitaker (43:50.84)
my gosh, I got chills. No, that was so beautiful.

Valentina Bain (43:55.737)
I love it so much. it reminds me too, Susan, that like how, like for so many years, I loved nature. I spent all my time in childhood out in nature, but I also loved makeup and fashion. And like I was modeling, you know, it's like, I didn't think that I could exist in both worlds, but we can. We can have the luxury, we can have beauty, we can have all of the things that our hearts desire and we can still.

Susan (44:07.524)
Mm hmm.

Susan (44:17.104)
And the thing is, and the makeup now and the and stuff for your face, it's coming from other earths.

Valentina Bain (44:25.023)
go and like, as you always say, a squat and like we can start fires and we can sleep outside if we want. Like we're, we can be as wildly free as you talk about on your podcast or as like put together and like on a yacht, wherever we want to be, whatever our hearts yearn for is, is okay.

Susan (44:45.306)
She wants you to feel beautiful.

Jennifer Whitaker (44:49.926)
Right, yes.

Valentina Bain (44:49.933)
That's true. And there's tribal like essence of that. Like that was actually a, I'm trying to think of the word. What's the word I'm looking for guys? It was a ritual. Makeup originally was a ritual. So if you, can turn anything into a spiritual ritual if you do it mindfully and you're clear on why you're using it, you know.

Susan (44:58.884)
Yes.

Susan (45:03.663)
Jennifer Whitaker (45:16.662)
Yeah, there are so many paths that I want to go down with you on this topic. I feel like we need to have a whole other conversation on this as well. It's so incredibly impactful and powerful. I'm also curious, even going back to your story, Susan, how do you think now that you

Susan (45:31.214)
Thank you.

Jennifer Whitaker (45:44.476)
have been touched so beautifully by this native and indigenous energy and change by Mother Earth and you too, Valentina. How can you take this forward? How might this deeper connection with women and nature impact the world for the better?

Susan (46:00.386)
Hmm. That's such a great question. And I go back to just what it is that we created with Gals Off The Grid is and how we come together and we create these retreats and we create this connection to be on the land and to know you're not doing it alone. You're not alone. Like your journey is part of your soul's path here with Earth. Like you like you said, like we were brought here for a reason.

right now in this lifetime. so for us to be able to tap into the energy of the indigenous cultures and to bring in, to be open to it, that's the thing, to be open. Like once I was able to understand that it's, don't have to do it alone. It's more times than not where I'm just walking and I get the idea that I need for my business or for whatever. It's that.

knowing that it's that connection, like she's there for you, connecting, co-creating. And that's what we, that's what Gals Off The Grid is. We're helping you co-create the life that you want through the healing of Mother Nature and women.

Jennifer Whitaker (47:20.24)
Mm-hmm. Beautiful. So well said. Valentina, you have

Valentina Bain (47:25.079)
And our vision, yeah, I was going to add to it. Our vision is to not just go to the land and leapers, but to go to land all over the world together and to learn from those tribes, those ways and those sacred lands and collect those pieces of ourselves, parts of ourselves and to expand ourselves together through adventure and experiencing different modalities and.

Susan (47:36.428)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (47:53.773)
just the sisterhood connection and space that we can pause our lives and come together and celebrate one another and create together and hold that. And what kind of impact we might be able to have together as well to help the world be a more healed version of itself, not just ourselves, but how that trickles out to in a bigger way than we can even imagine.

Susan (48:13.138)
you

Jennifer Whitaker (48:23.014)
That's such a beautiful vision for gals off the grid. And my last question before we wrap up would be, what do you think the future holds for women and community and nature, even beyond gals off the grid, but just collectively as a whole on this planet? Susan, do you want to take that?

Susan (48:37.388)
Sure, it's such a big question and I mean all I can, the way I can answer it is just what I hope for myself is that if we stay in alignment with our heart and who we are, if we stay in alignment with Mother Earth and what she is asking of us because she shows us every day what she needs,

If we have the support that we need, if we have the love that we need, I feel that we're, and if we keep, if we know that no matter what the feminine is the power in the most divine way possible, not coming from ego, but knowing that we can conquer anything and we're just gonna keep going.

I feel like it's in a way because everything that's happening in the world has already happened before, hundreds of years ago, thousands of years ago. So in a way it's just a big circle and like where's our, where's our, you know, where are we moving in that circle? If that made any sense.

Valentina Bain (49:49.881)
Beautiful. Yes, totally. Yeah, so I often remind people, because I do work with the emotional release work, like the emotions that are held in the body, that sometimes when things are coming up to be released, it can feel like it gets worse before it gets better. But that awareness is key, right? It's like the awareness really gives us the opportunity to release and start to heal.

Jennifer Whitaker (49:50.52)
Yeah, yeah.

Jennifer Whitaker (49:54.748)
balance.

Susan (50:15.104)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (50:17.739)
And so although these times might feel, and I've mentioned this quite a lot this year, because everybody's had a lot of different feelings about the changes happening in the world. And it may look like things are getting worse. And on some levels, of course, that could be validated, that belief. But, you know, what if there is a line, I envision this, there's like a line of souls that wish that they could be incarnated at this very time. And we're the ones that get to be here. They get to usher in this new energy.

Susan (50:32.999)
But.

Valentina Bain (50:47.299)
through every cell of our bodies, of our beings. And we're collectively ushering in this new energy and experiencing this wave of transformation. And I do think women hold that key because we are the bridge between all the past generations and all those before us. mean, cellularly speaking, like we lived in our mother's wombs, you know, and their mother's wombs. Like we are deeply connected to other generations, both directions.

Susan (51:02.471)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (51:16.737)
So I think we just have to lean into our instincts in a deeper way because that's what's been stripped away. And that's why I love the work that you do so much, Jennifer and Susan as well, because I think we know more than we think we know. And I think all we have to do is come together and that we'll remember who we are meant to be. And we can do that as well together. And it can be more powerful and more.

Susan (51:32.582)
Mm-hmm.

Valentina Bain (51:44.929)
enjoyable and more magical than we imagine. That's the space that I like to hold for it.

Jennifer Whitaker (51:54.64)
Well, is there anything that you want to add before we wrap up our time together? I could talk to you both for hours and hours. I'm just in awe of each of you, such gifted, powerful, incredibly rooted women. And it's just, I'm so grateful that the universe brought us together in this magical way. Is there anything else you want to add before we close?

Susan (52:07.868)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (52:20.793)
I just want to add an invitation to anybody listening that feels a call to join us that they're welcome, you know, to come to our table, so to speak. We're, growing more and more online events and we will be having more and more international and national events in the future. And so if you feel a call to be a part, we, have space for you and no matter where you live and no matter where your path has led you, you can come and check it out and check us out and.

Susan (52:37.797)
Okay.

Valentina Bain (52:50.221)
Join us.

Jennifer Whitaker (52:52.412)
I'll be adding to the show notes links for you all to check out all of the events and to learn more about both Tina and Susan. Susan has an upcoming podcast that she's launching called Wild Neighbor, so we'll drop the link to that as well. But again, it's such an honor and a privilege to connect with both of you just in this podcast, but just

Susan (52:53.637)
Okay.

Jennifer Whitaker (53:16.354)
Again, as things unfold and evolve, I'm sure we'll have many more projects that will be unfolding over the months and years to come. But I imagine that everybody else who has been listening today is just in awe of your wisdom and insight that you shared with us. And we'll have to do this again.

Susan (53:30.256)
Yes, thank you so much. Thank you for having us.

Jennifer Whitaker (53:40.72)
Thank you both.

Valentina Bain (53:40.953)
Thank you, Jennifer. So grateful to know you, be in your realm.

Jennifer Whitaker (53:45.702)
You too.

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03. Death/Rebirth Cycle in Business: What to do when you've outgrown parts of your business

Transcript

 Welcome to the Rooted Woman Rise podcast with Jennifer Whittaker, CEO of Wealthy Like a Woman, Divine Feminine Guide, and Business Mentor for Soulful Female Entrepreneurs. This is for the woman who's ready to break free from hustle culture, reclaim her feminine power, and scale her business with simplicity and ease.

Here, we blend practical business strategies with divine feminine wisdom and nature based practices to help you create a multiple six figure business rooted in your feminine energy, ancient wisdom, and true essence.  Are you ready to reclaim her, the sacred, wise, wild, and wealthy woman within you? Let's get started. 

Hello everyone. It feels so good to be back in the booth. The booth is really just my office recording a new podcast episode. I have been away for a little while. There's been so much behind the scenes that's been happening. And if you've been in my world for a while, you've likely noticed that some things have shifted a bit.

But  my messaging, my offers, my podcast name, which is now RootedWomenRise,  yes, so much has been happening and it was all  birthed from this profound spiritual awakening that I had in October of 2024. And as I'm recording this episode right now, it's January, 2025, just to give you context.  And I want to share today what led up to this spiritual awakening, what happened in this spiritual awakening and how it has transformed my business. 

Because I am hearing from a lot of women in the entrepreneurial space, including my clients that many of us have been going through or are going through a death rebirth cycle in their business. And that's exactly what happened to me in fall of 2024. Before  I share what happened, I want to. provide a little context and a little bit of a timeline of what led up to this moment, particularly for people who are new in my world and don't know my story. 

So prior to launching my business, I had spent over 20 years as a philanthropy executive where I served organizations around the world, working with the world's wealthiest individuals, scaling businesses to well over 30 million.  I raised collectively over 200 million over the course of my career. And over time, as much as I loved the work that I did, I began to feel burned out.

The constant churn of trying to raise money and more money and more money just let me, left me feeling depleted and exhausted.  And I really started craving a new path  and that led me to spiritual coaching.  I decided to pursue a path that was more spiritual in nature and  studied the divine feminine for three years and was certified as a spiritual director, which is somewhat similar to a spiritual therapist and was certified as a life coach.

And I felt really called and drawn to weave the divine feminine and my background and money together and create a business empowering women around that. While I was studying to become a spiritual director, my own spiritual director and I were talking about my passion and love of nature.  I had a long history of working with animals within the organizations that I served.

I was the vice president of the largest chimpanzee sanctuary in the world. I worked for several years with Jane Goodall and I say all of this just so that you can understand  the depth and breadth of my love and passion for the natural world and animals. And so when I decided to pursue a more spiritual path, I remember talking with my own spiritual director and saying, I have to find a way to weave my coaching and nature and animals together.

And I just don't know how to do that.  And she guided me to Celtic spirituality.  And over the past few years, I've been quietly honoring in my life, Celtic spirituality, but I wasn't sharing it in my work.  I say all that for you to have some context as I share what happened next.  So as I left my spiritual direction program and my life coaching program and stepped into the world of entrepreneurship.

As a spiritual coach, the natural step was for me to teach women around the divine feminine and money.  And I thought that by teaching more broadly about the divine feminine, that it would satiate my desire to weave nature into my work. I thought that it touched just enough on my passion. Of the natural world, but quite honestly, I still wasn't really talking about nature.

I wasn't talking about animals. I was talking about the divine feminine. I was talking about spirituality. I was talking about women's empowerment and money and getting money into the hands of soul centered woman. And all of that was great,  but it left me craving something more.  And in October of 2024, I heard clearly that Wealthy like a woman, teaching money concepts wasn't it. 

My soul was so bored. I wasn't embodying the fullness of me.  And I knew that I was being called to weave nature and animals into my work.  But I had no idea how to do this. And quite frankly, I was actually scared to pursue this path. I was so afraid that it wasn't marketable. And then I had this beautiful podcast episode with Vanessa Petronelli.

And if you haven't listened to that previous podcast, I'll share the link in my show notes, but she does this beautiful soul journey work with horses.  And she talks about her work. On my podcast episode and she invited me to come to Nashville and work with her and meet the horses. And I knew like that was a full body yes for me because it came at the perfect time as I was craving and longing to weave more nature and animals and my true passions into my work.

And so I took a quick trip from Memphis to Nashville and I met with Vanessa.  And the first 10, 15 minutes of me being there, the horses didn't want to have anything to do with me. My energy was scattered. I felt like I was all over the place and she slowly guided me into this beautiful meditation and grounded me in the moment.

And as I brought my presence. To that moment,  I felt the women in my lineage standing next to me.  My mom who had recently passed away, my grandmother, my great aunt, my great grandmother, I felt them standing right beside me and they said to me, we've got you.  You're not going to fail. We are with you every step of the way.

We are opening doors for you. We are doing this together.  And as I stood there, grounded with my feet in the ground, with my eyes closed, being guided through this meditation, feeling the women in my lineage surrounding me,  all of a sudden Buddy the horse comes right up to me.  Nose to my nose,  face to my face.

And he nuzzles my face  and I felt him say, you are me. I am you,  and everything shifted in that moment. I knew in that moment that my calling was to weave animals and nature into my work, and I had no idea how I was going to do it, but I had no choice. I had to do this. I knew that I would die figuratively and literally if I did not live out my truth.

And so that began. The death rebirth cycle in my business. Quite honestly, stepping into this new space was terrifying.  I had to let some things die.  I had to let go of clients who no longer aligned with my new path.  I had to let go of programs and offers that gave me financial security.  I had to let go of a version of myself that I had outgrown,  and I had to let go of what I perceived was safe so that I could create my own path.

I had this carefully mapped out path. I knew what each step was that I had to take, and I had to let go of that safety and security and that knowingness. And I had to birth a new level of trust in myself and the divine. I had to birth the courage to create my own map because what I was about to trailblaze did not have a map.

I had to create my own. And I also had to birth this. Utter belief in my unique magic, that the culmination of my experience, my lineage, my passions, my education, my lessons from failures and successes, my unique way of doing things, my methodology that nobody else was doing was exactly what would make me successful and would fulfill my soul.

And today sitting here sharing this with you, I am thankfully on the other side of the death rebirth cycle. That's why I'm just now doing this solo cast episode on this experience. I've been wanting to share this with you for a while, but I knew that I wanted to wait so that I could give you the full picture.

of what transpired and how this has impacted my business. What's transpired over these months have been hard. I've had to let go and release some things that were really painful, but I wouldn't have it any other way. What's birthed has been so beautiful and I'm going to be really real with you because that's who I am.

Some nights I cry to my journal feeling like the death would never end.  I thought that I'd lose my entire community and all of my clients.  But as soon as I feared that and grieved that  I would meet someone new. A new woman would be divinely placed in my path. And she would feel so aligned. I began to be invited to teach workshops and speak on  podcasts.

I began meeting women and receiving messages on Instagram and online saying, Jennifer, oh my gosh, this is exactly what I have been praying for. I was calling in exactly you and here you are, I didn't even think that you existed and now here you are. And that was all the confirmation and validation that I needed to know that I was on the right path.

So even in those moments when I was grieving the loss, I was also provided for with evidence that I was exactly where I should be. And by the end of 2024, my coaching income tripled,  but that's not the amazing part. It's that I did it in full alignment with who I am.  This is because authenticity equals magnetism.

And the more you embody your true nature, The more you reclaim the parts of yourself that you've pushed down or hidden, the more wildly magnetic you'll become. What happened in my business doesn't make any logical sense other than what shifted is that I began to embody more of my true essence and my true nature.

I see this death rebirth process happening in so many businesses right now, especially for women.  What worked once Is no longer working. What felt aligned at one time is no longer feeling aligned. And I think this is because we all want something so much deeper. We're evolving in such a fast pace that our businesses are shifting dramatically and quickly.

And our clients want to feel something. We want to feel something. Your clients want your truth to awaken a truth within them.  Your soul wants more than just strategies. Your soul wants you to remember that ancient wisdom that lives within you from the lifetimes that you've lived as royalty, priests, healers, warriors.

You're aching to bring this to the surface, to express and embody this in your business.  Death and rebirth.  is inevitable in our businesses.  We are always growing. And so our businesses must evolve with us.  And nobody is talking about this, how this is actually so normal. And nobody's talking about how to navigate this.

That's why I knew I had to create a podcast episode on this topic and share my story.  So, I want to share a little bit with you of how to navigate the death rebirth cycle that you are likely going through right now.  And it begins with a few signs.  It begins with feeling uninspired with your programs, perhaps some misaligned clients, perhaps you're feeling stuck or inauthentic in your business, or perhaps you're doing things you think you should do versus what you really truly want. 

And as I said, I think that we're always going through some sort of death rebirth cycle within our businesses, but some are subtle and some are more extreme like mine.  The three different variations of death rebirth cycles are one, the flicker.  The flicker is when perhaps you're ready to raise your prices.

Or the type of client that you've been serving needs to change and you're desiring a different type of client to serve.  The second is the flame.  This is when perhaps you want to end a successful program or an offer and create an entirely new one. The third is the burn it down phase. This is when you can no longer do what you were doing. 

That's exactly what happened to me. It's time for a total revamp of your business. It's time to do what you really truly want to do. No more holding back. It's time to weave your unique magic and skills together.  Just like I have been doing with business strategy, which has been 20 years of a skillset that I love to do, but it's now blended with my nature based spirituality. 

All of it, all phases, all stages are beautiful and perfect and so magical  within you right now, there's a part of you that wants to be revealed,  but you're afraid to let her out. And I get that. I get that fear so much. Believe me, I do.  So I want to share five things that really helped me face my fear, which allowed me to walk straight into the death portal and allow myself to come out as an entirely rebirthed woman. 

The first thing was I had to have a spiritual practice so that I could go inward to pause and reflect.  I needed to honor and give gratitude for the parts of myself that I had outgrown.  I had to trust my divinity to create more,  and I had to trust my ancestors and the divine to help me create more.  And what helped me here is that I looked for evidence from the past to prove that I was held, to prove that I had everything within me to create more. 

The second thing is I had a release ceremony. This really helped me have a ritual around letting go of the old business elements. It allowed me to grieve and let go of those pieces that no longer served my clients, no longer served me. And it created the space for new energy and opportunities to come. 

The third thing was that I had to have radical honesty with myself. I had to get really clear on my truth. What is so true? What do I have to share? What messages are coming out? What do I have to teach?  I got to the point that my desire was so strong that there was no turning back.  The fourth thing was getting support around this. 

I had to talk about this with other close female entrepreneurs.  We had to normalize it because we were all going through it, but for some reason, we weren't sharing about it.  And having this group of close female entrepreneurs to speak honestly and candidly about the grief was so cathartic. So healing for my soul.

Another form of support, which is so impactful is having the right mentor. A business coach isn't there just to help you make more money and to give you the steps to build a business. The right business coach is there to also walk alongside you through the death portal,  find the right mentor, get the support that you need.

You're not supposed to move through this alone.  The next thing I did was take focused action.  I chose one strategic step at a time to slowly begin to realign my newly rebirthed self with my business.  I first focused on changing my mastermind. I then changed another offer.  I then changed the title to my podcast.

I then change my messaging  by breaking it down into little steps. It became less overwhelming because the last thing you need is an overwhelming business to get in the way of your emotional healing as you move through. The death and rebirth cycle.  And finally, don't resist the death. Don't resist the rebirth.

Lean into it. This is the natural cycle of this beautiful, magical, abundant world that we live in.  So, that's been the journey over the past few months. Like I said, a lot has been happening behind the scenes, and so much more is to come. But for now, I'm going to head outside and take a walk, but I can't wait to see you on the next episode.

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02. Step Into Stillness: A Winter Solstice Ritual for Inner Stillness w/ Jennifer Harvard 

Transcript

 All right. I'm so excited to share this beautiful conversation with you all today. I am talking with Jennifer Harvard and when she and I met, I was immediately drawn to her. It was like meeting an old friend. I had been observing and watching and really just loving her work from afar.  And then when we finally met, I realized that we had so many similarities, not just in our name, which is obvious,  but we both were raised in a very traditional Christian home.

And then we moved on to a more feminine and nature based spiritual path. We both live in Tennessee, we're both drawn to our Celtic roots, and there's so much more to that as well that we share in similarities.  But one of the main reasons why we gather today is to share this beautiful tool that we both use in our work.

And this tool has the power to change a woman's life.  It, I believe, will guide you back home to yourself. And that may sound a little cliche, but I really truly believe this. It's happened to me with my clients. I know with you as well, Jennifer, this tool has the power to help you remember who you are. It helps you get into your flow state where everything feels effortless.

It deepens your connection with nature. Which overall, like improves your overall wellbeing,  it activates your inner wisdom, your intuition, your creativity, and your magnetism. And this ancient framework that I'm referring to is the Celtic wheel of the year.  And if you aren't familiar with it, it is a tool that is rooted in Celtic spirituality that really celebrates and honors each turn of the season. 

Acknowledges that everything is moving in divine order,  that everything that we see, the plants, animals, each other are so sacred.  It is a deeply feminine and nature based spirituality that came from Western Europe thousands of years ago in a time when women were revered.  I feel like I'm drawn to the wheel, not just because it's part of my ancestral lineage, but it's also played a really integral role in me reclaiming my own feminine power and my divinity and has really helped me show up with so much more confidence and alignment in my business and in my life.

And it's now the primary tool that I use to help women build beautiful and sustainable businesses. And it's the framework that Jennifer uses in her work too. So Jennifer, I am so grateful that you're here to share your wisdom and a beautiful ritual that's going to help us slow down, reflect and honor the approaching winter solstice. 

But before we dive into all of that, I want to kick off our conversation.  By asking you the question that I ask everyone who joins me on my podcast, what is the spiritual practice that allows you to stay rooted as you rise?  Hey, Jennifer, first of all, I want to say thank you so much for having me. And I too immediately felt that connection, not just with our name or the way we look even physically, but, um, all of it. 

So I feel like my answer is pretty obvious now that you know what I do, but it is, um, you know, tuning in to each turn in the Celtic Wheel of the Year, the seasons and cycles of nature. I feel like,  you know, the more that we tune into that, the more we're able to really tune into our own nature. And,  you know, following the season cycles, we're able to know.

When it's time to rest, when it's time to begin to plant our seeds and watch them grow and come to fruition. And then the cycle is repeated over and over again. So there's also this solace in knowing that, that life is cyclical and with every change, there's a new beginning. And, um, it really has changed my life.

It really has.  I so resonate with that too, because we're not meant to be racing and doing all the time. I mean, there are seasons for that, but I think it's such a needed tool in our society, especially as women gives us that permission to. Listen to our bodies to tune into our intuition and really recognize that we can still thrive.

And actually the way to thrive is by balancing both that production and that rest.  I'm wondering if you can walk us through your journey and how the wheel found you and how you now use it in your work.  Well, Let's see. I think I've been,  I think I was introduced to it around 17 years ago.  Um,  I had been a Buddhist practitioner before that and also a Hindu,  you know, but just delved into pretty much every spiritual practice.

I think there is for a little while. Found my home in nature based spirituality and was introduced to the Wheel of the Year when I joined a women's circle. Um,  and it was here in Nashville, Tennessee, where I live, but the woman who ran it, um, she was from Michigan.  And,  um,  the, I was in this women's circle for around five years.

And we, Really did practice honoring each turn in the wheel of the year,  but when it fell apart  I felt inspired to begin to create my own thing Which is now called Gaia's Sisterhood  and  I really Really started diving into the wheel of the year then way more so than before when I was in this woman's circle and  You know, I really follow that, that practice.

So, uh, in book, for instance, which is February 1st and 2nd, that is the time of the year when I create a vow, um, which is the intention that I have all throughout the year. And I continue with that vow and I. water it and watch it grow. Sometimes I forget to water it and it, you know, it has to be reborn again the following year that has happened to me a few times, but  that's where it started.

It started with this other women's circle. And then I just  really knew that was. That was my path.  And you said that the wheel of the year, you began practicing it and you shared a little bit of example of in bulk of using that practice. Can you help us kind of understand a little bit more about what practicing the wheel of the wheel, the wheel of the year looks like maybe for you or just in general, can you kind of map that out a little bit more for us and paint that picture? 

Sure. So the wheel of the year. Um, consists of eight Sabbaths or seasonal celebration, um, for our celestial solar. So we've got the, the spring equinox, the fall equinox, equal parts day and night. Then you've got the winter and summer solstice. Winter solstice is coming up, right? That is the shortest day and the longest night.

Summer solstice is the longest day and the shortest night. And then we have the four cross quarter days, which is really what the ancient Celts celebrated the most. Those are the ones that usher in the beginning of each season. And how I use these is,  for instance, I just described inbox. So that is Really for me, that is my new beginning.

Um,  people often use New Year's Eve as their time to sort of, uh, create their intentions for the year ahead. But I use Imbalc as my, my beginning to really  hone in on the intentions that I, That sort of start that spark of creativity really starts for me at the winter solstice. So I go into this period of deep rest, right?

I'm honoring the seasons and cycles. I'm listening to my body. My body in the winter says it's time to rest, right? It's time to reflect and tune inward.  And that is how. We can come back and create that is when inspiration comes to us when we go within and without that going within,  um,  we might not have that creative spark or inspiration.

So I use the Winter Solstice to go within and  listen, listen to the voices reflect on on what worked and what didn't work. Then in bulk comes the first cross quarter day in between the winter solstice and the spring equinox. I plant my seeds of intention. So I'm really solidifying what it is that I want, right? 

What I'm dreaming. This is now coming, you know, it's becoming solid. And then at the spring equinox, um, that is when the light truly returns to the world. And so those seeds that I plant begin to take root and they begin to grow and they sprout little blooms. And that's how I continue to work with the Wheel of the Year.

I just. Tune into nature. What is happening? What is mother nature doing right now? And how can I reflect that within?  Yeah. And I love that you touched on something that really aligns with my work as well at in bulk is when you set your intentions and your goals. And that's what I also have my clients do.

We set our annual goals and the year ahead in February. Not at New Year's Eve, not in December, not when everybody is telling you that that's the time to set all your goals and make your New Year's resolutions, actually the worst time to do that. It's the time, like you said, to go inward, to learn of what worked, what didn't work, what needs to go, what needs to come and use that as your guidance to set your goals in a couple months from now.

So thank you for sharing that, um, beautiful framework and how you're using that in your own life. Cause obviously it really aligns. with the women within my work as well. And now that we are approaching the winter solstice, you touched on this too, of this is the time that we need to be slowing down, but our society is in this.

Massive hustle and bustle type of energy right now, which I think that's why we see so many people and women particularly stressed out and overworked and depleted and drained during the holidays when this is the time to really be celebrating and going in and resting and reflecting. What do you see as far as the impact of our society, particularly during the winter time and winter solstice, and what can we do to bring them more into alignment? 

Well, you, you are absolutely correct when you say that, that women in particular are burned out and stressed out because it is, you know, if you look to nature and you just think about your year in general, regardless of whether you even honor the, the Celtic wheel of the year, you were tired by December.

You know, it really, we, we need to rest and yet in this modern day society, especially again, women, we might have, you know, our families to take care of and a job, you know, children,  the holidays, right? They add this extra layer of stress, family coming in town. So, you know, and parties, holiday parties. So there's all this outward, um,  you know. 

Outward festivities in this time when we need to slow down. So,  you know, it's really important to allow oneself pockets of time to rest and reflect  because.  You know, I think that  sometimes we can have a tendency to  think that we have to create, you know, Oh, I, I don't have time to go on this retreat right now, or I don't have time to spend three hours in the woods or what.

It doesn't have to be that even creating little pockets of time, you know, taking a bath.  Spending time journaling  and going for a walk, you know, just know that even stepping outside, just really allowing oneself to pay attention to, to nature and what's going on can help us feel calm because it's still, you know, when you really connect with what's going outside, there's a, a feeling of stillness in the air, regardless on what. 

regardless on what's happening with, with the modern society. And, you know, you could even live in the city, but if you go outside and you look at a tree that is bare and, you know, just reflect on nature and how it is a time of letting go, just like the leaves on the trees,  that does bring us a sense of, of calmness and going in, inwards.

Absolutely. I've seen  Such magical, miraculous results when women align with nature and their ancient wisdom. And I see it not just on the, the personal and the spiritual, what you're saying as well, just like this inner calm, but it is reflected also through external abundance and a thriving business. So like the woman  aligns and she thrives alongside her business.

It's just a beautiful journey. What have the results been and the impact been that you've seen in your own, maybe in your own life and in your client's lives? Can you, do you have a, um, maybe an example that you can share with us of what happens when women, whether they're slowing down in the winter or they are coming out in spring and really tapping into their creativity and more visibility, what has the impact that you have seen in other women's lives as a result of this alignment? 

Well, I'll speak for myself first. If I  Didn't take this time to pause. I don't think I could do what I do for the rest of the year, which is create events and retreats all year long,  pausing and taking that time to go inward is the only way that that sort of  creative spark is ignited again. So if I didn't, I take all of January off, I don't do anything in January other than. 

rest, reflect, and begin to get ideas. That is when spirit really comes in and talks to me. And this is how my whole year is planned ahead. So it starts as soon as it's time to go within, I start getting clarity because it really takes that quiet.  You know, it takes that, that time to pause in order to, to be creative.

And feel refreshed in the coming year. Otherwise, you know, burnout will just continue. So, you know, as far as, um, My, uh, Guy's Sisterhood community, I would say that it's the same for a lot of the women that attend my events, they also need that pause and they're able to,  you know, really figure out, I know one woman actually said that she realized that she needed to move out, um, of the city and that's when it came into her as what it involved one year and she actually the following year ended up buying a house.

For more information visit www. FEMA. gov You know, in the woods and feeling so much happier, but she needed that time to get some clarity to pause and then refresh and,  you know, create a clear intention and, and that clarity really comes with that moving inward. Yeah. I feel like there's so much that winter solstice can teach us to me. 

Part of that isn't just gaining the insights, but I think it also for me personally has helped me. Trust the dark, trust my shadows, trust the unknown.  And I think the mystery, which is deeply feminine, we've been taught to fear, but I believe that winter solstice brings us back inward and reconnects us to that mystery and the feminine and the unknown and the shadow parts of ourselves that we need to love and accept and embrace in order for us to be whole and lead from that place.

And I think there's so much. Value and wisdom that Winter Solstice teaches us in this time. Absolutely. Is there anything else that you would say that Winter Solstice teaches us? Yeah. Well you hit the nail on the head again. Mm-hmm . Um,  you know, it is so important to take that time to, to turn inward and reflect and. 

You know, I do, I find myself, I've already, you know, been in this because we're already in the darkness right now. So, that's how we heal, you know, that introspective time is really how we,  you know, we can tune in, like you said, to our shadow self. We can,  personally, I'll just say, I've seen some of that shadow aspect sort of coming up and it gives me a chance to look at.

The things that maybe still  pain me, you know, there's still still issues that need work with all of us, right? Yeah, things and it's this time that I allow myself to,  to, to bring those into the lightness, see what they are. And hold that space for for both the shadow and the light because,  you know, on the winter solstice, we are honoring the lights return right the moment that we hit the winter solstice that exact time, the days begin to get lighter.

But that is very slow. And so we're still very much in that time of focusing inward and you. And also focusing on, um,  our hearth and home. So not just our inner landscape, but also paying attention to our surroundings, you know, making sure that our nest is cozy,  um,  and feeling that comfort, you know, without and within. 

Yeah. It's a beautiful time of year. Yeah. I read something this week. Um, it was a book on Celtic spirituality and they said that the Celts believe that everything is birthed from the dark and that really, really touched me deeply. And especially with us being in winter solstice. And I. I'm thinking about this beautiful ritual that you're about to offer us to share with us to walk us through how to move through the dark.

But again, it's not a time to fear. It's a time to revere the dark because there's something beautiful that is being birthed. In the dark. So can you tell us a little bit about what to expect with this ritual that you're going to walk us through and what it will help us do during this time of rest and reflection? 

Sure. So this, this ritual is really about sort of going within  and seeing your inner light. So knowing that even in the darkness, we hold the light within us. It's always there. Whether it's a tiny little glimmer, sometimes it feels like that, you know, or it's a large flame. It is always within us. So,  um, a way to prepare for this ritual is to have a candle.

Just this very simple candle. Could be white, red, green,  gold. Even a beeswax, I love beeswax candles. Um, a lighter. You can have some incense with you if you like, and a journal and a pen.  I also just recommend ambient music, but you don't have to, to have it playing in the background. You can just have silence.

I do have a Spotify, Gaia Sisterhood on Spotify. I do have some playlists on there that I use for my,  um,  for my events. And so, that's all you're gonna need for it. And it's just, again, really about  Recognizing your own little light in the darkness.  Beautiful. And I will drop any links in terms of playlists to in our show notes, as well as all the ways to connect more deeply with Jennifer, but, um, I would love for you to start to walk us through this ritual.

Okay, great.  So,  I, first of all, I recommend to begin this ritual finding a place in your home where you won't be disturbed. So a quiet place away from  animals and children and whoever, partners, whatever.  You'll want a chair or a cushion  and some place to set your candle so that you can gaze at it. So whether you're on the floor and it's a coffee table in front of you, just some way to have your candle sitting in front of you. 

So then you'll smudge the area, right, so you'll light your incense or a smudge stick, and you will just simply go around the space that you're in. Um, you can smudge the edges.  And that just cleanses the space and gets rid of any sort of old, stagnant energy.  And then after you do that, you go and you have a seat on your cushion or your chair.

You light the candle, set it in front of you.  And then you'll just gaze at the flame.  So you'll gaze at the flame for the candle, just for a minute or so. 

Take a few deep breaths. 

And then you gently close your eyes.  Just imagine the light from the candle,  see it  flickering behind your eyelids, 

and then imagine this flame illuminating your heart space.  So you see this golden light with the rays extending outward from your heart space in every direction. 

So during this time of year when the outer darkness envelops us, we really rely on this inner light to carry us forward.  to guide us on our path.  So see your inner light glowing brightly.  Feel it opening you up to gratitude as you reflect on the past year. 

Reflect on your successes  and also reflect on maybe where things didn't work out. 

Just spending a few moments going inward. 

And after this reflection,  begin to dream a little.  Consider what you wish to carry forward in the new year. 

And also,  consider what you need to release.  This is a beautiful time to let go. 

And finally,  think about what you're grateful for. 

Taking it all in.  Breathing it into the body with the in breath. 

Exhaling. 

Slowly and gently opening your eyes. 

And then you take out your journal.  And spend a few minutes writing about what you wish to bring forward in the new year. 

And then you might want to wish, you might wish to write about what no longer serves you. 

A really powerful  sort of um, short ritual that you can do in addition to this is to take just a strip of paper, a small strip of paper, write down what you wish to release from the past year,  and then get a bowl of water, have it sitting next to the candle.  And take your strip of paper, you'll light it with the candle, so ignite it. 

Once it starts burning, just hold it over the bowl of water and drop it in.  And this releases this energy, right?  And then afterwards You can take a warm bath,  or like I was saying earlier, you could go for a walk in the woods, really tuning into the silence of nature and her resting state.  And then using this awareness to carry you forward with rest, knowing that the light is always inside you. 

Oh, Jennifer. That was so beautiful.  I closed my eyes and just allow myself to picture that I did have a candle in front of me and that I was doing this and I could even feel a shift just by allowing myself to be present with what I could do in the moment. So I can only imagine how impactful this is going to be when  the women who are listening really move through Each detail of the path and the steps that you laid out for us and, uh, thank you so, so much.

It's so important. Again, this ritual is going to help us really slow down and tune in and prepare the path for the year to come and. While also releasing that hustle, um, because we're not here to deplete ourselves to burn our bodies out. We're here to anchor into our true nature and lead and change the world from that place.

So thank you for helping us do that. Oh, you're so welcome. And you know, that's just an example of how spiritual practice doesn't have to be me. Super complicated even, right? You know, most of us have a candle that we can light and it just takes that certain, you know, just a little time, right? A little tuning in, a little pause, a little time and most of us have enough time to do that. 

space to be able to just create these pockets and that will help us get through. So, you know, taking away that sort of expectation of, oh, I have to have this huge long practice and just starting small, just simple like that can change, make big changes. Absolutely, and I know two other impactful ways to deepen the spiritual practices also being in community and doing rituals together, which you offer an array of really incredible  ways to commune to deepen your connection with nature.

And again, I'll drop all of the ways. To connect with Jennifer and to learn more about her retreats and events in the show notes. So be sure to check them out. And I can't wait to attend a few myself in 2025. I think they're going to be just so juicy and fun to do with you in person.  Yeah. I'm excited already.

I'm trying to rest, but just because of the downtime I've already experienced, a lot of stuff has been coming through. I'm trying to sort of.  You know, let it come without jumping ahead, listening to my own, you know, my own body and just,  you know, as this creative spark begins to hit just writing down little notes, just taking a little notes, but, you know, also pausing and knowing that, um, I have time to, to get it all done.

Yeah. Isn't it amazing that when you just give yourself. Even just a sacred pause, I have found that even like you said, the 10 minutes or 15 minutes, all of a sudden I'll be flooded with new ideas and downloads that I didn't have prior to taking that little break. So when we intentionally carve out a season of doing that, I mean, that is,  I think there can be some major transformations from doing that. 

I plan out a whole year in the month of January because that is, because that's, you know, I'm just, I'm resting and allowing,  you know, and, uh, that's the way it create creativity happens sometimes if we don't take that time, we don't, you know, it may not come in and I, I created my first ever retreat, you know, and created the schedule.

And I think I told you this, but like 15 minutes, because it. I allowed myself just the time to just  sort of let it brew. And then when it came through, it was just fast and furious. It was just ready to bubble up. I mean, that's exactly it. It's like, we don't have to be in production mode. In fact, that is, I think actually  blocks our effectiveness.

That makes us actually have to work longer hours. But when we rest, it's so, it's so counterintuitive, it shortens the amount of time that we need to work. So yeah. Yeah.  Yeah, as women, we are, we are the creative aspect, right? We, we, it's just innate. It's within us. We, you know, we create life. We are so connected to Mother Earth because we are the creators.

And yeah, it just takes that, those sacred pauses to really, to be able to, to come back and create amazing things. And, um,  It's, it's deeply needed in this society. Honestly, I don't know how people do it that, that don't take those pauses. I don't know how people continue. Well, I think that actually, you know, people get sick, right?

They do. Right. That's what we're saying. A huge health crisis now.  That's a whole other topic that we can talk about next week.  Well Jennifer, thank you so much for taking the time to be here and to share your beautiful gifts and wisdom with us.  I know it is going to be so deeply received and appreciated by the listeners in this community.

So thank you again, and we will have to. Do this again. Yes. Thank you so much. It was just a pleasure connecting with you, Jennifer.  Thanks.

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01. Horses as guides to your true self and greater abundance w/Vanessa Petronelli

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Alright, I am so excited to introduce you to Vanessa Petronelli who has become a very fast, dear friend of mine. She is not just a business coach and a life coach who's helping leaders and entrepreneurs expand into their next level of vision and purpose, but she is also exploring a new modality to weave into her work.

that includes horses. And if you don't know my story, I have a long, long history of working with animals. And so I have been, my gosh, this pun just came to me, chomping at the bit. To have this conversation with Vanessa because I think that there is this untapped

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market, there is this untapped potential of weaving business, money, the divine feminine, animals and nature all together. And Vanessa is trailblazing this path. And I'm so interested in the work that she's doing. In fact, I'm going out to Nashville next week to work with her one-on-one, which I'm so excited to dive into this even more, but

We are going to have this beautiful conversation and we're going to let it take us where it will. But the intention for our time together is really to give you a unique glimpse at what is possible when you connect animals, business, your intuition, the divine feminine money and all, and all of that together.

So welcome Vanessa. Thank you so much for being here.

Vanessa Petronelli (02:08.886)
Thank you, Jennifer. That was such a beautiful introduction to this conversation and to me. So I'm grateful to be here and to have this conversation with you.

Jennifer Whitaker (02:19.542)
Yeah, you have such an interesting background that did not originate in coaching. So you started out in the entertainment industry. Is that correct?

Vanessa Petronelli (02:31.845)
correct, yeah, from 14 to 24. I spent a decade in singing professionally in a pop group, acting, modeling, and I started my first business when I was around 20 in a similar kind of vein of the entertainment industry and event marketing and promotional.

Jennifer Whitaker (02:51.972)
How did that work lead you into coaching?

Vanessa Petronelli (02:56.279)
Interestingly enough, at 23, when I was being developed as a solo artist, as a singer, my manager at the time hired a life coach for me to do some session work with him. And it was during a time toward the end of my career where I wasn't as tapped into my intuition. I wasn't listening to God and listening to my body quite the way I...

I've listened to it later in life, but there were so many signs even prior to the life coach that were telling me to leave that industry. And prior to even having sessions with this life coach, my former boss, when I was working as the right hand to a national CEO who was doing the event marketing promotional work, she had introduced me to Landmark.

And so around 20, 21 years old, I was getting involved, dabbling, starting to dip my toes into the world of personal development and by 23 I had a life coach. But the interesting thing about this is that even when I was a little girl, I always had this very natural knack to help people and to advise friends, peers. And so people would always come up to me and tell me their life story.

Jennifer Whitaker (03:50.584)
Okay.

Vanessa Petronelli (04:16.205)
and ask me, you know, what do you think about this or what should I do about that? And I just had this knowing, I guess you could say, of how to help them. And that always stayed in the back of my mind, but I really believed that going into the entertainment industry was gonna be the platform or the catalyst for me to do very big purposeful work in the world. And God had other plans for me. And so at 23, when I had this life coach,

Something internally clicked for me after that and then once I left the industry and went on some soul-searching I went back to school I'd already had my degree, but I went into a post-grad program where the coaching Sort of started and then I opened my business from there and that was it's gonna be 16 years in November, which is just wild that it's been that long so it it was an interesting bridge from that industry to coaching and

Jennifer Whitaker (05:00.12)
Wow.

Vanessa Petronelli (05:10.061)
If you had asked me in my early 20s, you know, do you see yourself having a business doing that? I probably would have said no, but it made a lot of sense on the journey that I was put on to open this business and to do this work.

Jennifer Whitaker (05:26.596)
How has your evolution of coaching evolved over the years? Did you always work with the same audience that you do now? What has been your journey of coaching over the past 16 years? Because I imagine the industry in itself is quite different. And you've changed so much over the years, I can imagine. How has that evolved over the past 16 years for you?

Vanessa Petronelli (05:46.627)
yes.

Vanessa Petronelli (05:55.333)
Yeah, there's been many iterations of what this work has evolved into for sure. When I first started the work, I had gotten my yoga teacher training and my mindfulness certification. So I was teaching these classes and they became this opportunity for me to really talk about consciousness, to really ask powerful questions for people to go a little deeper in their practices. And as I was teaching, I was also simultaneously starting to take on

I was doing an internship when I was in school and then once I was out of school I bridged yoga to the coaching so I was getting clients from my classes and initially it started off because all of my intuitive gifts started to come online. I was able to see things inside of people that they had never even told anyone. I could place my hands on someone's body

and I could see what was happening for them. So initially, it wasn't really coaching. I was doing a lot of readings. And so people were coming to me and they're, you know, asking me all these questions and I'm performing this energy work and doing all of this type of deeper transformational, you know, processes with clients. But then they would walk away and I would feel like...

Something is missing in the work. This is not what I envisioned that I would be doing, is doing readings. There's nothing wrong with that. It was great, it was powerful, and it was helpful. But for me, when people were coming to me and saying, hey, can you tell me if my future's gonna include this person, or if I'm gonna win the lottery, or this will happen to me, it felt like people were giving their power away to me. I'm not the, I'm not God. I'm not Source. I'm not there to tell you what.

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the timeline of your life is going to look like. I want you to go out there and create that. And so I had a real heart to heart at one point early on in my business where I really asked God, was like, something about this doesn't feel right. You know, what what can I do to help people to get back into their power? And God reminded me like you are here to help people remember who they are at the core of their being. And so transformation. Yeah, it's going to happen over time. So you need to create session work.

coaching work. Initially what you had learned, you need to bring that into your business. And so within probably just maybe even the first six months, it started to become more session work, coaching work. People would come to me, I would, you know, speak with them about whatever was going on in their lives. And at the time I was seeing pretty much anyone and everyone. I was working with, you know, clients, kids who were as young as five. So I would do these coaching sessions and then I would do these healing sessions.

Jennifer Whitaker (08:37.804)
Wow.

Vanessa Petronelli (08:41.847)
in combination. And so that was probably the first, I would say, couple years. And then it started to, you know, really transform into mostly adult women, adult men. I was working with, you know, Lululemon employees. They had hired and brought me on to work with some of the people in their organization, help to develop them. I was teaching these classes with yoga and meditation. I was a Lululemon ambassador at the time.

And then by year seven, when I met my husband, who's American, that is when things started to open. I actually was invited to go and be a part of this mastermind in LA. And I had always had this dream and knowing that I was supposed to be in LA. was just a vision from the time I was very young and of course influenced by the entertainment industry as well. Like that's where I believed I was going to end up and I was gonna have a career there.

And so I had let that go once I started my business, but then I met my husband, Jeffrey, and we had a long distance relationship. He was also a coach at that time. And this possibility opened when I was invited to this mastermind to go to LA. And that's where just the lid was blown open, so to speak, because I was in a room full of people who were, you know.

at a higher performing level than even I was because coaching was so new back in Canada, because that's originally where I'm from. you know, here I was in a room full of, you know, all these other entrepreneurs and coaches who are, you know, several steps ahead of me. And I could see what was possible. And for me, was I was I had about 90 or so clients at that time, and I was burning out.

because I was teaching and I was also doing the session work. And so when I came back from that mastermind, I closed up my business and went fully online. And then shortly thereafter, about maybe a year later, I was in the States living in LA with Jeffrey, then we got married. And so the online work basically, you know, has been the core of what I do. And then I started doing group programs, mostly for women.

Vanessa Petronelli (10:52.035)
women in business, women entrepreneurs, women who wanted to start businesses, leadership work. And then it kind of evolved into bringing more people into Hollywood, into my work. And I was going to the Oscars and the Emmys, and I high profile clients in that. And I was doing channeling work. I mean, the iterations are kind of endless. It sounds like, wow, this is a lot, but...

Jennifer Whitaker (11:13.252)
I

Vanessa Petronelli (11:16.235)
Everything very much like a puzzle piece all came together and it all evolved at this beautiful time and I believed that the iterations I was having in my business, those are sole contracts that I was having with every person that has come onto my path, with the people I've worked with all over the world from all kinds of different backgrounds and industries. So fast forward to now or I would say most recent day in the last year or so.

I was feeling that there was a real missing element in my work. And for years, that's where I was studying, you know, animals and horses and watching all these things. And I had this vision of one day maybe opening a retreat center where people could come and work with rescued dogs and horses, because I have two rescue dogs and dogs are my heart and soul. But the possibility never seemed like it was.

there for me. But once I made a commitment and I said to God on my 40th birthday, I said, listen, I know something's missing in my work now. I know that there's some new element. There's something else that's meant to be a part of what it is that I do. And you know how much I love animals. You know how much I love being in nature. Show me what that path is. I'm here. I'm open to it. Guide me. I don't know the how.

but I know that you can find the way. And as soon as I made that declaration, and it was not just from up in my mind, it was from deep in my body and my soul, and I was ready for that, the door started to open and that's how I've been incorporating horses since earlier this year in 2024 into my work. So I have the virtual work, but I also have the equine work and...

we'll see where this ends up flowing. that's kind of just a little, I know it's a little long ended, but there's been many iterations, you know, in the business and in the work that I've been doing, but the core of it's always been the same.

Jennifer Whitaker (13:14.454)
Mm-hmm. We'll get to the horses in just a moment, but I think you brought up some really important points is that the entire process to where you are, which is so incredible, so many twists and turns that are unpredictable, but they were all iterations. And I think so often we see women, know, mostly women will be listening to this, but women who are either early on or, you know, in the midway

portion of their journey wanting to be at the end or they're looking at people at the end or who are further along than they are and thinking that they have to get it all right right now when there is so much magic that happens in the iterations. I love that you said that there are soul contracts. There are people that we have to meet that are aligned and placed in the

in the journey, within the iterations. And I believe it almost like grooms us to trust ourselves more, to trust God more, to... It's an undervalued, I think, part of our journey is the iteration. And I love that you have leaned into iteration after iteration to get you to where you are. And that creates a lot of trust.

Vanessa Petronelli (14:38.053)
Jennifer?

Jennifer Whitaker (14:41.016)
Like you have to be able to trust yourself.

Vanessa Petronelli (14:47.459)
just cut out.

I missed a whole chunk of what you were saying.

Jennifer Whitaker (14:53.196)
no.

Vanessa Petronelli (14:54.563)
Yeah, it looks like on your side it's very pixelated. It's not clear, Jennifer.

Jennifer Whitaker (15:00.94)
Hmm. I'm... Okay, I'm showing it fine on mine. I'm wondering if it is...

Vanessa Petronelli (15:02.391)
your audio is clear.

Jennifer Whitaker (15:12.068)
the your internet connection.

Vanessa Petronelli (15:14.253)
I'm okay, on, it's showing full bars on mine.

Jennifer Whitaker (15:18.072)
Okay.

All right, I'm gonna just try to re say that again, and we'll go from there. And then there might be some editing that I have to do. So bear with me. Let me see if I can get back to and reframe my thoughts for a minute. So we're gonna get back to the horses part in just a minute. But I think what you highlighted is really important. And that

there were a series of iterations that got you to where you are today that were pivotal and really important. And I think what often happens with women in their journeys in entrepreneurship is that it's so tempting to look at women who are ahead of us and think that they had it refined and perfected at the very beginning. And so we put this pressure on ourselves to

make it look perfect, to make it look like it is further along than when within what it really is, which inadvertently then undervalues the journey, the process of iteration. And you highlighted something so important is that in the iteration, you believe that you have people divinely placed, you had a soul contract with them, you

learned, you grew, the iterations were a part of getting, the iterations were exactly what you needed to get you to where you are today. And that requires a lot of self-trust, a lot of trust in God. But I don't believe it, but I believe that we need to value that and embrace that as part of our journey instead of skipping.

Jennifer Whitaker (17:14.188)
over.

Vanessa Petronelli (17:16.833)
I couldn't agree more because it's the iterations that you look back on and you remember as some of the most profound opportunities for your own evolution and growth. And I think we undervalue too just the joy in the journey. Getting to that end goal, there is no end goal. And I hate to break it to anybody listening.

Jennifer Whitaker (17:39.352)
Right. Yeah.

Vanessa Petronelli (17:42.059)
We all have our goals that we set, but then by the time you reach that goal, then you're like, well, what's the next thing? And that's just kind of the nature of the way the human mind works. It's like the monkey mind, right? It's like, what's the next thing and the next thing? And we keep setting this bar for ourselves of achievements and accomplishments. But the truth is, even when you get there, it's beautiful and you want to celebrate those things, but it's also the

process, like that's where I feel sometimes most proud of is not just achieving the goal, but the journey that it took to get there and to have those iterations and how blessed are we to have those iterations because we can learn so much from these lessons and from those periods where we're being, you know, kind of maybe sometimes put under pressure to get to where we want to go or just what happens in the process of

evolving and growing a business. Like there's just so much to it. And if we're not present to it, we can miss out on that. If we're only focusing on the end result, then we're really, we're missing so much of what life is providing for us in every moment, especially as leaders and as women.

Jennifer Whitaker (18:38.788)
you

Jennifer Whitaker (18:55.98)
Yeah, and I think that goes back to the feminine way of growing a business or even growing and creating your life. It's like, I think the masculine format is very goal oriented. It's reaching for those deadlines, destinations. And so we're almost having to retrain ourselves to remember that it's about the journey and to pause and take it slow and enjoy and learn.

through that process, through that uncertainty, through the journey of it all.

Vanessa Petronelli (19:31.299)
Yeah, it is. It is. And the feminine approach is very different than what I think most women and what most of us have been conditioned growing up. And so it is an unlearning of a lot of those habits that teaches us to get back into our bodies, that teaches us to slow down, that teaches us to be present, to use our intuition, to listen, to observe, to be.

You know, it's a different pace when you start to build your business or your career from a more feminine perspective. But the rewards of that are so much greater than when we're in the old kind of conditioning and beliefs where we're just like moving and going and I need to get there and I need to be perfect and it needs to look like this and I have to be like that. Like that just sets us up for burnout. And let me tell you, I have been there.

multiple times in the past. And I know what that's like, especially as somebody who's been a former perfectionist and high achiever and high performer. I know what it's like to want to just be there already. I can see it and I can feel that intensity of what that's like because I was that version. I was that woman, you know, a while back. So I get it. I understand.

Jennifer Whitaker (20:29.06)
you

Jennifer Whitaker (20:56.608)
your journey with the horses and integrating that into your work. When you said that you're now in a space where you're building your business intuitively by being present, by being true to who you are, how have horses helped you anchor into that even more?

Vanessa Petronelli (21:22.277)
Hmm, the horses. This is a hard one to put into words, but I will do my best to articulate this. I believe that a lot of the work that I have been doing internally for probably even the last four or five years has been in preparation to be able to facilitate this work with the horses. It is a very different energy that coaching virtually or in person without the horses

Jennifer Whitaker (21:27.012)
you

Vanessa Petronelli (21:51.909)
It's a very different experience because horses are the embodiment of the divine feminine. They naturally who they are in their nervous systems in the way they are as prey animals, who they be basically is the embodiment of what we are basically working for so long and so deeply to remember and to be.

And so horses have this incredible ability to bring us back into our bodies, to bring us back into that space of magic and wisdom that resides within our own heart and soul and being as humans. And it's important for people to understand because horses are prey animals and they are social herd animals, meaning they live in community.

They live as a herd, or a band of horses, whether they're domesticated or in the wild. And they rely on their intuition, they rely on each other's roles in the herd to not be a prey, to not be preyed upon. So they have just this very natural inclination to co-regulate with one another so they can be in unison with their nervous systems, with their heart rate, that when there's danger coming,

where there's a threat to their herd, one or two of the more lead horses will alert the rest of the herd to leave. So they need to be around calm energy. They need you when you interact with them to be fully present. If you're in your head, they know, they sense it because for them, their four legs are always on the ground. Their hooves are always connected to the earth. They are always living in the present moment.

Because if they're not living in the present moment, then that could be a threat to their survival. And the beautiful thing about horses is that when we enter into their field, I think it's something around like 10 feet, I think it goes out more than that, to be honest. But from what I've read in the studies and research, when you enter into a horse's energy field, into their presence, because their heart takes up so much space in their bodies, it's way larger than a human's.

Vanessa Petronelli (24:17.731)
that we start to feel that connection and we start to regulate and we start to have the beating of our hearts sync up together through the electromagnetic field. So when we're in the presence of a horse, that's why we start to feel so emotional. We start to feel because we're finally in this space of A, getting into a co-regulated state, which I believe majority of humans in our day and age are dysregulated.

Jennifer Whitaker (24:28.068)
Wow.

Vanessa Petronelli (24:46.533)
They're living in fight or flight. They're living in some form of survival mode. And the horses help to co-regulate us. And when we're more regulated, we're aligned. We're more alive. We have more clarity. You know, our bodies start to heal. Our minds heal. We're able to be more open and receptive to what life is offering us. And the same could be said in many ways about other animals and nature in general.

Jennifer Whitaker (24:47.95)
and

Vanessa Petronelli (25:13.657)
but there's something very special about being with a horse because it's just so intuitive and so in tune with you and who you are in each moment. And they are instant biofeedback reflections or mirrors to who we are in that moment. So if we're in our heads and we're saying, I'm great, I feel amazing, but in our heads we're terrified or we're suppressing emotions of some sort.

being in the space in the field of a horse, eventually that is going to surface because that is what's most authentic. That is what has the horse feeling most safe with you. So it comes down to with working with horses, being present, being in our bodies, being honest about who we are, allows us to create a sense of safety when we're with a horse because they now trust us and they can

include us as a part of the herd and not see us as a potential threat. Because when we're not present and we're in our heads and we're out of our bodies, we're dysregulated and ungrounded, that's a potential threat to their safety and their survival. So it offers a lot for us as humans, even more than what I'm sharing, because it really has the ability for us to learn how to slow down, how to be.

Jennifer Whitaker (26:14.434)
Thank

Vanessa Petronelli (26:37.445)
how to let go of distractions, how to reconnect with ourselves and with nature because the most primal primitive parts of ourselves are still there. Maybe they're dormant because of the kind of society and culture we live in. But working with horses has the ability to kind of strip and dissolve all those pieces away at a very accelerated rate and helps us to get back into our most natural state, to the core.

of who we are. So that's why I believe God has also placed this on my path to work with the horses because they're very divine beings and they embody what in my opinion, I believe we're heading towards in our society. We're gonna eventually have to tip that scale from where we've been to going back into harmony with nature, into harmony with each other, into harmony with ourselves.

Jennifer Whitaker (27:07.161)
Yeah.

Vanessa Petronelli (27:33.783)
So I could say so much more, that really, that's the deep connection for me and why I feel this work is so powerful.

Jennifer Whitaker (27:43.544)
I'm so fascinated by what you said because years ago I grew up with horses and I was actually riding at a time that I was being severely like physically and emotionally bullied at school year after year going to school, having to face girls that were being physically violent to me. But in the afternoons I would go to the horse farm and animals were

Vanessa Petronelli (27:59.791)
Hmm.

Jennifer Whitaker (28:12.856)
what I thought were my escape, but they were also a place where I could connect to them, connect to myself without being able to put that in words. Like I was a child, I didn't know that that's what I was doing. Hearing you describe the science behind horses makes such perfect sense that I remembered who I was, that I was able to connect with my authenticity.

in the afternoons to create some sort of safety and balance amidst years of what was going on in my life, all of that trauma. And so we take that now and I think about the work that we do in business coaching and my work around money and that there's often so many subconscious and unconscious wounding around our money and our business. I mean,

We can, we, know this, that most of a business is 80 % energetic, 20 % of it is strategic. So getting to the root and remembering who we are reconnecting with that part of ourselves is actually what's going to make us thrive, not just financially, not just through our business, but personally and spiritually too. So I just am so, so fascinated by all this work that you do.

And I guess that kind of leads me to my next question is if you could kind of paint the picture a little bit more about what that work with horses looks like with a client.

Vanessa Petronelli (29:47.065)
Yeah, that's a great question. So when I sat in the development of the work earlier this year, I have been doing case studies because I'm so fascinated by my own transformation and working with the horses in a more therapeutic coaching type of environment. But I also really wanted to see what happens to people over time when they're around the horses as well. So every session, there's a similarity.

but it's also very different because it really depends on the intention that a client has coming into the work. And so all of the people that I've been working with, they're all leaders, entrepreneurs, professionals in their careers, but each of them have come in with different things that they wanna work through. Some of them are working through things that are more business related or that's what they initially come in for.

Jennifer Whitaker (30:41.014)
Great.

Vanessa Petronelli (30:42.403)
And then it just kind of goes in a whole other direction, which I'll get to in a moment. What I have found, especially for my medicine and the work that I am bringing through with the horses and and co-creating with them because we're there, my partners in this is a very slowed down, divine, feminine approach to healing and to mastery and to the unveiling of the authentic self and of the somatic somatic approach to the work.

So it's not just depending on strategy or just talking through some of the things that are coming up for a client. It's really about having them get into their bodies and get so present with themselves and allow the horses to come in and to work with them. And they will come in and work with clients in a variety of different ways. This is why there's a similarity that...

I'm bringing the semantics, the coaching work, the healing, the energetic work, the spiritual work through in the sessions. But the horses have their own way of approaching a client. And it's fascinating because, I mean, my mind is blown in almost every session because again, my development over the years has allowed me to notice very subtle shifts in energy, very subtle shifts in movement.

And when you're working with horses, you're not just paying attention to your client, you're also paying attention to what is the horse mirroring? What is the horse saying? What are they communicating here through their body language, through how they're coming in? I also can hear and communicate with animals. So many times the horses will also come in and they have something to say to the client. But the horses will also...

not approach clients when they're not being authentic. And I have seen the horses not show interest sometimes when a client comes and they're saying one thing or they're in a very excitable energy or they're feeling really anxious and the horses will literally walk away. But when the client comes back into their body, even if they're like a hundred feet away, they will feel it and they will come in.

Vanessa Petronelli (33:03.897)
The horses just know, they know what a client needs in each session. So sometimes it is us doing, you know, more of the coaching work and then approaching the horses and there's more mindful grooming or we're doing some kind of energetic process or there's some kind of channeling that wants to come through or I'm literally just having the client be with the horses because they are so not used to doing that in their daily lives.

Most of us are so dreadfully uncomfortable without having a phone in our hand or thinking about a to-do list or thinking about where we need to go next. And so in the work, I strip all of that away, which is why I love this work so much because I'm helping and so are the horses to help the client co-regulate and get connected to themselves so that the stuff that they have been bearing or suppressing or have been avoiding

whether it's something in business or not gets to surface. And so it's amazing to see that sometimes the intention, you sometimes clients come in with a very specific intention. Sometimes it's more general, but whatever needs to be worked on that day, it presents itself. And I've seen clients have massive breakthroughs around things that they've repressed from way back in the day that they weren't even aware was still, you know, affecting them.

And I also see clients having really big breakthroughs around things where they've been confused or they haven't had the clarity around that. But here's the kicker in this. And this is what's so special about this work. Working with horses in this capacity is like a gift that keeps on giving. Because when you leave the horses, they say scientifically that your nervous system is regulated for about, I think, eight or so hours.

I could be paraphrasing that I think is anywhere between 8 to 10 hours after you've interacted with them. But working with the horses, you will all of a sudden get insights, ideas, understandings about certain things that happen sometimes days, weeks or months later. There have been times in my own equine therapy where I've gone and it doesn't look like much is happening sometimes. That's the thing. Like if you're in the frame of mind of

Jennifer Whitaker (35:02.605)
you

Vanessa Petronelli (35:25.283)
I need to do all these performative exercises like sometimes we see with equine therapy or equine coaching or facilitated learning. My work is much more slowed down and peeling back and really being in your body and removing a lot of the doing elements because what surfaces and arises is sometimes really profound and where most of my clients what they've needed. So it will look like there's not much happening at times.

And then all of a sudden I'll hear from my client, they'll be like, my gosh, that thing that you had mentioned, I didn't get it in that moment with the horse. But all of a sudden I now have this massive understanding of something that happened in my life or I've been struggling through this thing or I get it. Like, that's why they were mirroring this or you had channeled something through and now I have the clarity around what you meant by that. So there's been many moments for myself and clients where it's this gift that just keeps on giving where

down the road, you have some kind of breakthrough or there's some sort of transformation that happens and it is a result of being with the horses and you can correlate it to that.

Jennifer Whitaker (36:35.48)
That's so interesting too because the way we're taught to structure businesses is like there are outcomes, there are timelines. We have to articulate very clearly what the value is, what to expect. But it sounds like this work kind of turns all of that on its head. So how have you had to adapt to not being able to put

this into words or not being able to define a timeline or what to expect. How have you had to trust the mystery and prepare your clients to trust the mystery as well?

Vanessa Petronelli (37:15.127)
Yes, I mean, and that is always a work in progress and it depends on the client, right? So there's some clients who just get it and they're just like, I know, you know, I've come to you for business and there's so much more that's wanting to come through. And how I often position this with clients is you have your intention. We know what you want as an outcome. And oftentimes the path, even in my virtual work, it will kind of be windy. It's not going to look

Jennifer Whitaker (37:19.748)
of

Mm-hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (37:44.747)
linear. It's not going to be straight and narrow. And so at the end of the day, your business is an extension of who you are and who you're being. And so you have to remember that. Your alignment in your business, the clarity, that next level, that next goal you want to achieve. There is a time and place for strategy. 100 percent. Just like you said, 20 percent is strategy. But for the people who are heavily focused on strategy, it's often because the thing that they're really needing and missing

is the work that I do with the horses. It's the opposite at times. You want the outcomes, but this is tethered to programming, conditioning, beliefs, fears, dysregulation. There's some kind of identity or identities that are keeping you perhaps tethered to these outcomes. But really what is naturally and organically happening when you show up and you're in the presence of the horses may not be the thing that your mind or your ego is wanting.

Jennifer Whitaker (38:17.24)
Right. Yep.

Jennifer Whitaker (38:24.749)
Yeah.

Vanessa Petronelli (38:43.789)
And so this is why I don't think this work is for everyone at times. I think everybody could benefit from it. But you have to be at a stage and place in your life where you're gonna invest in something like this for yourself, but also be willing to take your hands off the wheel and say, know what, I surrender to the process. I have my intention, I have my desires, and it may not look or go exactly the way I'm thinking it might.

Jennifer Whitaker (38:43.812)
Yeah.

Jennifer Whitaker (38:47.705)
Right.

Mm-hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (39:10.681)
it's going to be better than that. I'm going to get exactly what I need from this process, not maybe what I want initially, but eventually all those paths lead to that outcome. They just don't go and maybe in the way that you were thinking it would. So articulating it can be difficult at times, but I do share this with clients very early on. You know, I want you to have your intentions. I want us to have those goals. I'm going to do my best to always

Jennifer Whitaker (39:12.996)
you

Jennifer Whitaker (39:25.24)
Yeah.

Vanessa Petronelli (39:39.461)
provide 100%. I will give you that to have those goals met and we also have to make room for the possibility that there could be other things here that we're not aware of right now. Blind spots, things that your soul, things that the horses are gonna reflect or bring up for you that maybe you're not, you weren't thinking are involved in this process. So you've gotta trust that. Trust the process.

Jennifer Whitaker (39:50.19)
Yeah.

Jennifer Whitaker (40:02.212)
Mm-hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (40:04.085)
surrender into it and the more that you can let go of being rigid and inflexible or trying to control the process and the outcome, the more you will actually receive from what's actually happening here, the gift that the horses and this work is bringing you. And that's why I call the programs Equine Soul Journeys, because that's exactly what they are. It's a soul journey that is being incorporated with horses, with equine.

Jennifer Whitaker (40:16.052)
You

Jennifer Whitaker (40:25.752)
Yes.

Jennifer Whitaker (40:34.528)
Yeah, that's so beautiful and such a great reminder that this work with the divine feminine that weaves in nature and animals and all these other soulful components. I mean, it can be terrifying as we, you know, unprogram ourselves from what we've been conditioned to knowing what to expect, having that certainty. But I think too, there's

The word I wrote down just a moment ago is liberating. How liberating is it? I feel like, my gosh, if I just think about stepping into the unknown, I feel like I'm almost exhausted and tired of this whole performative way of being in business, being in life and having my soul kind of like ripped open of

trusting the unknown, knowing that whatever's gonna show up is gonna be better than I imagine is terrifying, but also exhilarating.

Vanessa Petronelli (41:43.605)
with you, Jennifer, on that. If you had told me this like 10 years ago, I would have been like, you're crazy for thinking that. But now I know it is true. And it's actually when you start to really incorporate the divine feminine into your life, into your being, when you tap into that and you start, I call it like we create this holy divine union within where it's not that we've

Jennifer Whitaker (41:49.368)
Yeah.

Vanessa Petronelli (42:09.007)
completely cut ourselves off from that inner masculine or that divine masculine. It's that we're bringing the feminine and the masculine and they're working together, creating this holy divine union within yourself to have your life work in a way that if you're too much in your masculine or too much in that feminine, it just doesn't work quite the right way, the most aligned way.

Jennifer Whitaker (42:17.346)
Yes.

Vanessa Petronelli (42:32.995)
I think for so many of us, we're again, so used to being in that more masculine energy or that masculine mindset to achieve. And we think this is the only way we're going to make things happen or hit our financial goals or, you know, become more visible. And, you know, it's only a part of it. And so the invitation, I think, for so many of us now is just knowing that that mystery, that unknown, that

Jennifer Whitaker (42:53.284)
Mm-hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (43:02.445)
of, you know, surrender, of letting go, of allowing, receiving. It opens you up to experiencing so much more ease and flow in life. It doesn't always feel that way when you're in that unprogramming, that deprogramming, right? That process. But when you're there, it's like life doesn't have to be so hard. We don't have to feel so depleted, so exhausted, so...

Jennifer Whitaker (43:14.564)
Mm-hmm.

Jennifer Whitaker (43:19.042)
Right.

Vanessa Petronelli (43:31.447)
always being in control, so in fear, like we really get to actually allow life to move us. And when you're out in nature and when you're working with animals, they remind you of that. And the horses have said some profound things. I think you might appreciate this because I was talking about money with a client one day. And one of the horses, I believe it was Belle, she's one of my favorite mares at the horse sanctuary. She's just this wise,

nurturing, super affectionate, just owns all of who she is, this beautiful horse. And she reminded me and also my client, even with our pasts, the horse's pasts, because many of them have come from situations that were not always so nice, abuse, neglect, all of that. And they were discarded, many of them, to auctions and kill pens.

Well, she said, even with our pasts, see how the abundance of how life supported us to all end up here at this amazing sanctuary. We don't have to go out and beg for hay and for food and for sunlight and for these beautiful pastures. She's like, it's provided to us. And so let this be a reminder that abundance is who you are. It's your natural state.

Jennifer Whitaker (44:38.148)
Mm-hmm.

Jennifer Whitaker (44:50.776)
Mm-hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (44:57.583)
And that sometimes in order for you to have what you want in your life, you don't always have to push or scream or fight for it or feel like you're behind or live in fear around it. And the way Bell positioned it was so profound, because it's like, wow, that's so true. Like even with their pasts, somehow their souls ended up at this amazing sanctuary where they are so loved, where they are so taken care of.

where they get to live out the rest of their lives in peace, in joy, as a herd. And they don't really have to do anything for that. It's just who they are. They were able to be provided in that way. And I thought that was so profound to hear something like that.

Jennifer Whitaker (45:36.833)
Mm-hmm.

Jennifer Whitaker (45:43.95)
So, so beautiful. Absolutely. Yeah. What role do you think animals, mean, in addition to horses, what role do you think animals play in helping us reclaim the divine feminine, but also embody our own abundance?

Vanessa Petronelli (46:04.409)
Yeah, I mean, first of all, think humans undermine the intelligence and wisdom that animals naturally carry and embody in their DNA and in who they are. One of the things that I'm a real advocate for for animals is learning to let go of these ideas that we have to be dominant over animals or that as humans, we tend to be more intelligent or wiser, smarter.

And so this approach from the old kind of consciousness, from this old world that we are now leaving behind in our consciousness upgrade right now, it's understanding that we all cohabitate on this planet together and each of us has wisdom and animals are just natural empaths and intuitives. And they have a lot to share and a lot to say. I remember watching a video

with Eckhart Tolle and he was talking about animals and why they're so wise and why they're so important and valuable in our lives and he said something like to the the lines of animals are pre-ego and humans we're working on becoming post-ego and so that is the profound wisdom that animals can offer us because they don't have the ego

Jennifer Whitaker (47:22.549)
Wow.

I'm sorry.

Vanessa Petronelli (47:30.401)
always filtering everything through. It's not to undermine humans, of course we're highly intelligent, skillful, all those things. But animals can teach us a lot about coming back to our most natural state. And it's in our most natural state that a lot of the strivings and the programming and the conditioning and a lot of the things that we experience as humans

they don't have those kinds of problems. Do they take on some of what we're embodying or what we're feeling and experiencing? Absolutely. Dogs are a great example of that. They're natural empaths and they will take on like a dutiful role, any of the emotions that we're feeling because they don't wanna see us suffer because dogs are very much about living in joy. They wanna see you happy. They wanna see you enjoying life. So every animal...

Jennifer Whitaker (48:20.77)
Hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (48:27.895)
and part of nature has something to share with us. And I think one of the key pieces in that is listening. Deep listening and slowing down. So many issues that clients, myself, I think humans have, comes from this need to always be talking, vocalizing, asking, wanting, striving.

And there's not enough listening that happens because when you actually get still enough, quiet enough, present enough, and you listen, you will hear the inner voice. You will hear what even nature is trying to tell you. So that's really the invitation I feel for us and abundance is included in all of that. And if you're having, you know,

questions around your own abundance or your own inner work, nature teaches us to listen, to pay attention, to observe. And when you do, you might just start to get some of those answers, some of those inquiries that maybe when you're spinning in your thoughts or you're seeking external answers from everyone around you that you're not getting, it's all found within. It's found in nature.

Jennifer Whitaker (49:51.63)
Mm-hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (49:54.543)
have to slow down enough to be in that space.

Jennifer Whitaker (49:57.464)
So what I'm hearing is that for all the women who are listening right now, the way to connect and awaken with their intuitive knowing and their post ego selves is really just to slow down and listen. Is there anything else that you would guide them to do?

Vanessa Petronelli (50:20.303)
definitely get regulated in your nervous systems and clear up trauma and wounds and the subconscious beliefs. That is a massive part of what may be blocking us from also tapping into our intuition, but also being in our bodies. We have to get comfortable living inside of our bodies. And when we've had traumas or wounding of some sort, oftentimes we live out of the body or in our heads.

So you've gotta get comfortable enough to feel those emotions, to do the deeper internal work, because that makes your vessel a very safe and comfortable place to be. And when you're feeling that regulation, that's really truly what soul alignment is. When we feel safe and comfortable in our bodies and we're able to not just listen to all the thoughts on our head or...

allow our lives or personalities to be governed by past traumas or wounds, then we actually start to connect with more of the authentic core self. So the healing work is imperative in this, because you can be still and quiet and still have those old things coming forward as we all do as humans. I mean, that's the core of my work is doing the deeper work. And that is actually what allows you

Jennifer Whitaker (51:36.219)
something.

Vanessa Petronelli (51:44.729)
to become that clear channel and vessel for your soul, for your entire being to become more aligned and alive and get comfortable with the listening and being more present and slowing down.

Jennifer Whitaker (51:57.54)
you

What do you think the future holds for weaving animals and nature, the divine feminine, money and business, all of that together?

Vanessa Petronelli (52:09.187)
Well, my sort of sense in all of this is that the work with animals is actually going to become a much more widely accepted and in demand profession, if you will. I think that we're seeing people on a wide scale noticing that all the tech, all of that kind of patriarchal conditioning that we've had, you know,

in this world, it's dissolving and it's dismantling. And I feel that we are, not everybody, I can't speak for everyone, but I think a good portion of people who have been really on this transformative journey are starting to really feel that inner, knowing that inner sense of wanting to get back to our more primal, nature-bound rootedness, like that connection to what maybe our ancestors have. I'm not saying we're gonna go back to that time, but,

We need to tap back into more of that primal sort of nature oriented way of being and living. And I think that we're gonna start to see a lot more research and studies people in these fields stepping forward and really, really educating people on the healing properties and power of just simply going outside and sticking our feet in the grass. We already have research on that.

Jennifer Whitaker (53:33.188)
Thank you.

Vanessa Petronelli (53:35.141)
But my forecasting and my visions sees that it's going to be more and more and more widely accepted and something that we all do. And I think we're gonna start to slowly just navigate and draw away from what it's been, which is not that. So I think it's a huge, huge role in our consciousness shift and really reconnecting back to what...

nature and what animals naturally provide and have always been. And the more that we're open to that, I think the more that we're going to get reconnected to what's most important. And yes, money, wealth, all of that's a part of that. But I don't think it's going to be as much of a focus in a way that we've made it through the ego. I think it's going to be a part of it. It's going to be a much different approach and consciousness towards those things.

Jennifer Whitaker (54:23.278)
Right.

Vanessa Petronelli (54:29.709)
as we evolve and get reconnected with nature.

Jennifer Whitaker (54:33.228)
I totally agree. And I'm so excited to see where this leads us because as you know, my background has been in animals for many, many years and then moving into this industry, I still am continuously trying to find ways to weave it all together. And I think that there is an intersection for this. That's why when I met you, I was so excited to hear about your journey and I wanted to share it with the masses. And I know that there's still so much more for us to explore together.

But I totally agree with you. I think that this is just the start of something really beautiful and almost a returning to ourselves and our remembrance of who we are as we strip away the layers of society and the programming and get back to the truth to who we are. And I can't think of any other better way than having animals and nature guide us to that place. So.

Thank you so much for all that you're doing. Where can the women who are listening find you and learn more about your work?

Vanessa Petronelli (55:33.733)
Hmm.

Vanessa Petronelli (55:38.723)
Yeah, thank you, Jennifer. This has just been such a joy for me. I am very active on social media, so you can find me on Instagram at my full name, Vanessa Petronelli. I'm on Facebook as well, but there is my website. You can go to VanessaPetronelli.com. I am in the process of developing more of the equine-related website as well, so stay tuned for that, but.

Any questions, any comments, anything, I welcome that on social media or through my website.

Jennifer Whitaker (56:10.614)
drop the links in the show notes as well so people can easily find you. But my goodness, I am sure that this is going to be a wildly popular episode and we will definitely have to have you come back again and dive into this even more deeply as your journey continues to evolve and as you have more iterations of your work. So I look forward to continuing the conversation.

Vanessa Petronelli (56:34.721)
Mmm, me too. Thank you so much. I can't wait.

Jennifer Whitaker (56:38.68)
Thanks, Vanessa.

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Welcome to the Rooted Women Rise Podcast (formerly Wealthy Like A Woman podcast)

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Are you a woman who feels the call to create wealth and success differently—one that honors your feminine energy, spaciousness, and true nature? Do you dream of building a thriving multiple 6 figure business without sacrificing your well-being? You’re in the right place.

Hi! I’m Jennifer Whitaker, CEO of Wealthy Like a Woman, Divine Feminine Guide, and Business Mentor for soulful female entrepreneurs. I’m here to help you reclaim your feminine power and scale your business with practical strategies woven with ancient wisdom.

Rooted Women Rise is your sanctuary for soulful, ambitious women who are ready to align their business success with their essence.

Here, you’ll discover how to integrate Divine Feminine wisdom, nature-based practices, and business strategies to create a life and business you love.

Through solo episodes and conversations with wise women, we’ll explore topics like feminine energetics, soulful money strategies, and seasonally aligned business growth.

This is your invitation to rise, lead, and thrive financially, spiritually, and personally—rooted in your feminine power and true nature.

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After decades leading and scaling multi-million dollar organizations, I discovered that every life and business breakthrough came not from pushing harder, but from 

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